God's Plan for Us

Naomi

2012-02-15T07:56:00.002-05:00

I've been asked to advocate for another sweet girl who is soon to age out. Naomi turns 14 on July 18, so her paperwork needs to get started immediately. There is still plenty of time to get it completed. If you are already LID for another child, then the process would be even easier (this was what we did - took 10 weeks, but I know that another lady got the paperwork accomplished in 1 month - they will push that paperwork through!). There are many similarities between Xiaoyun and Naomi. Both have severe scoliosis, though at this point, I'm not sure of the curvature of Naomi's, both dangerously close to never having a family of their own, both lived in a foster home (as of the last update I have on Naomi), and it appears that perhaps Naomi's lungs (or perhaps heart?) might be compromised. Her file says she can't do a lot of exercise, and gets out of breath - which was Xiaoyun's case. The difference is that Xiaoyun now - only a year after we began- has already had her surgeries and lives with her forever family. Naomi's file says she loves to play with the neighbor's children and loves music. She can take care of her physical needs. Please consider whether this child might be the daughter you didn't even realize was waiting on you!! I have more info on Naomi - please send a note with your email address (I won't post it). If she isn't to be your daughter, will you please join me in praying for both Naomi and Makenna (as well as Tommy and Dawn - the children on the right side of my blog), that they will find their forever families before it is too late? Thank you!!!!

BTW - Xiaoyun has said she'd be glad to write Naomi for you (translate your letter or write one herself), to reassure her about being adopted.

Happy Valentine's Day!!!

2012-02-14T16:11:00.001-05:00

Three beauties!!!!

These are pics made today. As you can see, Xiaoyun is doing very well. She went back to the surgeon today. The drive was a little rough - she hasn't been in the car except for a few minutes, and that hour drive made her hurt, which in turn made her throw up :-(
The x-rays looked good, though the surgeon is still concerned that the hook at T-1 or T-5 could pull out (during the last surgery when they inserted the hooks and rods the T-3 crumbled). Because of that, he wants her to wait another month before even sitting up without the brace on. She is now able to lay on both sides, which shows how much her pain has decreased, and we're no longer getting up through the night to give her medicine (YEAH!). The brace was adjusted and cut down some yesterday, and makes for a much better fit now.

Little Tre

2012-02-12T19:31:00.000-05:00

A couple of weeks ago I mentioned a little guy in PICU -Tre. We met Tre (4 yrs old) and his mother after Xiaoyun's last surgery while we were in there for a few days. They had been in PICU for 4 months at that time. Waiting for a lung transplant. The last time I saw Tre was the day we left. I'd run over to PICU to take them a plate of food and say we'd be praying for them. She told me that day, that they were going to have a conference call with the hospital in St. Louis (who would do the transplant) in a couple of days. I tried to find his facebook page after we got home, but wasn't able to. Today, in the paper was his obituary. It broke my heart, and I cannot even begin to imagine how difficult this is for his parents and his brother and sister. Please pray for Tre's family during their darkest hour.

What a difference a year makes!

2012-02-11T10:53:00.000-05:00

Today marks a year since I first saw an email that began " Urgent plea for 13 yr old" . A year since I looked at a picture of a girl who was dangerously close to being a forever orphan. Judged in her country by the fact she had scoliosis and no family. A difficult place to be. When I saw her file it scared me. I wasn't looking to adopt two children at the same time, and never had any intention of adopting a teenager. However, for reasons I couldn't explain at the time, here is the email I sent to Annie, the one who was advocating for Xiaoyun

"I don't know why I'm even asking, except that it breaks my heart to see this girl who has suffered so much. Our dossier isn't even in China yet (will be sent next week), so I know, short of a miracle there would be no way we could be paper ready for another one by the time she ages out. We are already locked in for a 7 yr old (we adopted our first China princess last May). Also, unless finances changed I don't see how in the world we could afford this. However, having said all that, could you at least give me the list number she is on so I can look at her file? Thank you for advocating for these precious children! Cindy"

By the time Virgil got home from work, I was an emotional wreck. I asked him to sit down and not say anything until I'd told him everything I knew. He listened to me and said " I guess we need to contact our agency and see if we can adopt her".

The rest, as they say, is history- a miracle really. 'His' story, of moving mountains, miracle after miracle, to bring home Xiaoyun and Enya only 10 weeks after we first saw the plea for Xiaoyun. He put people in our path to help walk us through the process of adopting quickly, adopting an older child, and those familiar with scoliosis (of which I knew nothing). God opened the 'floodgates of Heaven' and provided finances, without our even asking anyone else. Money was even sent by complete strangers!!!!
I spoke with a lady the other day and was telling her, " If I had to put it down on paper, or even explain it, I couldn't. We've adopted 3 children in a year. I'm a stay at home mom, and we aren't 'well off' by US standards. Yet, if you looked at our finances, you'd never know we've adopted three children. Truly God's provision!
This year has been hectic, chaotic, filled with doctor's appointments, 2 surgeries for Enya, and 4 for Xiaoyun, adjustments, and days of feeling overwhelmed.
It has also been filled with laughter, little feet running through the house, hugs, kisses, 'I love you's!!!', hide and seek, and LOVE, LOVE, LOVE!!!! I wouldn't trade my wonderful, crazy life for anything!!!!!!!

Picture of Makenna

2012-02-09T14:36:00.001-05:00

Some of you commented that the picture didn't come through, so I'm trying posting it a different way - hope this works!!!

Makenna - perhaps your new daughter?

2012-02-08T07:58:00.001-05:00

I was recently asked if I would post Makenna's information on our blog in the hopes that her forever family might be found. She, like Xiaoyun, has congenital scoliosis, but was able to have 2 surgeries already to correct this. Also, like Xiaoyun was at this time last year, she is very close to losing her opportunity to have a family. She'll be 14 on December 2. Lest you think that is not enough time to get your paperwork together - at this time last year we had never seen a file of Xiaoyun (we saw her file mid February), but I had Xiaoyun in my arms 10 weeks after looking at her file. It can be done and will change this beautiful girl's life ( and yours!) forever!!!! I am able to get more detailed medical information about Makenna if anyone is interested. She was agency specific, but has just recently went back on the shared list. If you'd like more information leave a comment (I promise not to post it!!) with your email and I'll make sure you get it. Praying she receives her miracle too!!!!!!!!

Here is the information I received:

"Makenna is a pretty young girl who will be 13 years old on December 2.She only has 1 more year to find a family before she will no longer beeligible for adoption under Chinese law. She has had several surgeries;one when she was an infant to remove the meningocele on her back, then oneto correct her scoliosis in 2007 and another for scoliosis in 2009.Makenna is a delightful young girl who is very smart and verycompassionate toward others. She has received several awards at school forher abilities. She is very fond of reading and loves to do needlework. Sheis quiet and thoughtful. She is very polite and will always share withothers. Her teachers, nannies and friends all love her very much. Makennahas endured many surgeries and always faced them with bravery. This sweetgirl is ready to be brave yet again and face a whole new world...a newfamily, school, friends, language, customs...but she is ready. She onlyhas one more year to find you...Makenna was abandoned as an infant at a hospital and after the search forher birthparents failed, she was sent to a welfare institute to be raised.In 1999, she underwent surgery for a spinda bifida related tumor on herback and was diagnosed with scoliosis. She underwent further correctivesurgeries in 2007 and 2009, which have greatly improved her scoliosis. Hercaretakers say she has adapted well to life in the orphanage and considersthe other children her brothers and sisters.She is described as a helpful, kind, introverted, shy and cute girl. Sheenjoys cross-stitch, reading books, and is loved by her teachers. Thougha little behind in school due to missing classes due to having surgeries,Makenna is very smart, works hard and has earned several awards in school. Makenna has told her caretakers that if she were adopted, she would missher caregivers and the children she calls her brothers and sisters. Shewould love to go back and visit them if she ever had the chance. She alsodesires her own mother and father, a space of her own, and a warm family.MakennaFang has agreed to be adopted by a foreign family and would havethe opportunity to know a life of love, growth and happiness. "

Description of Xiaoyun's surgeries -from a non-medical mom

2012-02-06T15:12:00.002-05:00

For those of you who are considering adopting a child with scoliosis (or already have a child that needs surgery), I wanted to give you the medical terminology for what each of the surgeries entailed. In the perfect world, I would have a definition by all these, but I'm finally resigned to just getting this much done, and one day when life slows down (LOL!!!!) putting definitions by everything.

Background: Xiaoyun had congenital scoliosis that had never been treated. Her curvature was 150 degrees and was an S-curve. The area where the right scapula would normally be located is actually a part of her spine, and those vertebrae are turned around 180 degrees from the way they should face. Her lungs were compromised, because of curvature and her lung function was at 33%. Had her lung function been any lower she would have been considered too high risk for the operation. Also, because her lung function was so low, they decided it was too risky to wait another year or two. Pneumonia could have been deadly for her. Thankfully, though her heart had to work overtime to push the oxygen through, there had been no damage to her heart yet. As she aged the wall of the right side of her heart would have thickened, until the point that it caused her to go into cardiac arrest. This was truly a life saving operation for her. It was also not without quite a few risks - pneumonia, paralysis, infection, or worse. Because of the severity, her surgeon decided to do the surgeries in four parts- each a week apart if all went well from the previous surgery.
1. Halo placement - four pins inserted into her skull - they screw in between the outer and inner skull, two in the temple area and two behind the ears. The halo was then attached to a pulley system and weights were added until she finally reached 18 pounds of weight stretching out those muscles and ligaments.
2. Posterior spinal osteotomies, rib resection w/ spinal instrumentation, MEPS (removed part of 5 ribs, length of incision was about 12 inches - almost entire length of back).
3. Anterior spinal fusion, discectomy, thoracotomy, T6-possible T10-T11, Solera instrumentation, local bone, BBB, infuse, EM6, SSEPS, NIM, cell saver. (The incision started under right arm and curved around to the front. She had a chest tube inserted just below incision area, one rib was removed and 'banked' at the hospital until last surgery, There were three different methods they used to monitor the nerves to make sure none were being compromised. The cell savor was a machine that captured the blood she lost, circulated it, and placed it back into her body. 6 discs were removed, as well as a wedge shaped piece of two vertebrae.)
4.Posterior Instrumented Fusion T2 - L3, Solera instrumentation, Cherron osteotomies, scoliosis correction, autograft, Infuse, SSEP, MMEP, NIM. (Placed two hooks - T1 and at T5 (T3 crumbled) and inserted a rod, also rod placed coming up from L3 - L1, rods attached to each other, the bone removed previously and banked, was ground up and used as the 'glue' between to vertebrae, they went in the same posterior incision as before, but had to cut up a little higher than last time. Halo was then removed. Because right portion of spine was turned completely around, they would have had to cut through all her muscles on that side. They would never have healed properly, so they weren't able to put a rod on that side.)
Instrumentation used was titanium so she will be able to have MRI's if needed.
She needed a unit of blood during each of the surgeries, and after 3 of the surgeries she needed an extra unit.

This seems overwhelming looking at this list, but please know that it is now February 6, her first surgery was on January 4, and we are now home, she's gained at least a pound since getting home, has grown 4 1/2 inches, and now has a FUTURE without heart damage and difficulty breathing. It is a miracle, especially when you consider that is has been less than a year since we first looked at her file.
God has been SO good to us and has blessed us with many, many people who have come along side us with love, support and PRAYERS. We are truly grateful that God has allowed us the privilege of watching a miracle in the process!!!!

Living in a Whirlwind

2012-02-02T19:24:00.001-05:00

As busy as we seemed to stay at the hospital, it seems magnified now. Trying to catch up after a month of survival mode, plus taking care of Xiaoyun (and two busy other girls ;-) !), takes up the day. Xiaoyun is doing very well, and we seem to be managing the pain pretty good. She's getting her strength back in her legs, and is moving around more, which helps to get her brace on. We still need to do some adjustments on the brace, which hopefully can be done tomorrow. It is difficult to fit her correctly, since she still has some curvature. She is sleeping well at night, for which I am so grateful!!! Her appetite is back now that she is at home, so hopefully we can get her weight back on her soon. I'm so glad my mom is still here to help!!!!!

brief update

2012-02-01T23:18:00.001-05:00

It has been a great day, and a busy one. Virgil took the day off, and we've been enjoying being together (feeling almost normal ;-)! ). I haven't taken the time to stop and post today, and promise to catch up tomorrow. I think I will be able to figure out how to post the before and after pics of her back. I will say that the radiologist report said her curvature is now 67*!!!!!!! That is even better than hoped for. From 150* to 67* - thank you Lord! I do want to include a pic of three beautiful girls!!

We're HOME!!!! PRAISE the LORD

2012-01-31T19:23:00.000-05:00

We're home!!!!!! The trip home went so much better than expected. She rested the entire hour and didn't mention pain until one minute from the house. She did so well after getting home, she told me she didn't need her pain medicine when it was due. Incredibly, she even sat up and ate supper (and ate WELL!!!!). It's been a hectic, but wonderful day. I'll post more tomorrow, but for now I'm going to sit with the family and enjoy being together. Thanks for all the prayers!!! It is obvious that many prayers were prayed! It is truly a miracle we are here at home!!!!

Almost HOME!!!!!!

2012-01-30T22:45:00.000-05:00

Doesn't that luggage in the background look fantastic!!!!!!This morning, one of the surgeons came in and I asked what had to happen before we could go home. Basically we had done them all, so tomorrow we will all be together again!!! They will send her home with the medicine she is now taking (so glad we had gotten off the pain pump already), and will order some home therapy with a PT/OT. She won't be allowed to take a real bath for 3 more weeks, simply because the brace needs to be on anytime she is sitting or standing. At this point her back is still too unstable to be without it even for a short time. She is a little apprehensive about coming home, because she believes we won't be able to control her pain, but after talking a lot about it, I think she's getting more excited. The drive home is another matter, and I will talk to the nurses in the morning about what we can give her that will make the hour drive as easy as possible. She hates the brace and having it on that length of time is going to be a challenge. The brace shop didn't come by today like they were supposed to (not very happy about that), so the nurses said they'll start calling first thing in the morning to get them moving. Xiaoyun's brace had several areas that are too tight and are rubbing, causing a lot of pain.
We did have a treat today - Andrea came back again and gave us both another massage. It really helped Xiaoyun's neck, as well as mine ;-) . So sweet of her to come again and do that.
Xiaoyun and I had a long night, so I'll post more later!

Turned a corner

2012-01-29T21:11:00.001-05:00

What a difference a day makes! Yesterday, there were tears, begging, and pleading not to get her up. Today she has been up 5 times and walked twice around the floor. Not that she is liking the brace (at all!!!!), but we've turned a corner, I think. We're down to the PICC line (used to give meds, but no longer for the fluids and pain pump), and the leg compression at night. We've lost a lot of hardware in the last couple of days, and are actually wearing clothes now! Morphine is on the list if needed, but so far since the pain pump removal, she's not used it. We'll talk to the surgeon tomorrow to see what needs to happen before we can go home (doesn't that sound WONDERFUL!!!!!!). The last few days she been very unhappy, which I'd be too, and has said she just wants to go back to how she used to be. This afternoon, however, she perked up, watched movies with me, Virgil, Elli, and Enya, and ate a lot of popcorn. It was like a switch went off and she started smiling again. Glad to see that light in her eyes again!
My mom and Emily (our oldest daughter) stayed last night at the hospital, and for the first time in almost 4 weeks,Virgil and I were home at the same time. The girls were happy to have us both home and we were too (except for feeling guilty for not being at the hospital). We can't wait for all of us to be together again!!!!

To K, who mentioned advocating for a girl who will be aging out in the fall, please send me the info :-)
To those who have just sent Xiaoyun cards - thank you and we look forward to receiving them!!!!!

Thanks to all who are praying for Tre!!!!!!!

To our friend who has adopted from Hefei - we also have an Anhui beauty (Fuyang)

Perspective

2012-01-28T16:05:00.002-05:00

I'll start by saying that last night around 11pm they had a room become available, so we are now back out of PICU. So thankful to be back in a room, however, yesterday things were put into a little better perspective for me. In the bed beside Xiaoyun on PICU was a little 4 yr old boy. While I've been whining about being in the PICU for a few days, I found out he has been in PICU for over 2 MONTHS!!!! He needs a lung transplant and won't be able to go home until insurance approves the transplant, gets on the donor list, then flies to St. Louis to have the transplant done. I can't imagine how difficult this is for his parents. They also have 2 other little ones and live in the same town as us - an hour away. His mom said that at first they had a lot of support, but as time goes by, support dwindles. I asked her if I could post his name so you all could remember him in your prayers. His name is Tre (pronounced like Trey), and is hooked up to so many machines that is breaks your heart. It was a good reminder to me about how much so many are suffering and how much I have to be thankful for!!!!

Xiaoyun got the brace on and got up out of bed this afternoon! She also got the drain tube removed, as well as the Foley, and the bandages on her back. They took her off the pain pump, and though she still has the PICC in, it is not being used except when they need to give her medicine. She walked a few steps (not willingly) for the first time in a week and a half. Unfortunately, the brace didn't fit quite right and rubbed her neck, which made her think it was choking her. They went ahead and took it off and had the orthotics department come in and adjust it again. Thankfully, he happened to be just down the street and was able to come and adjust it quickly. Getting up made her nauseous and wore her out. Some Zophran (?) and a nap is where we are at this point. We are so much closer to going home now!!!!!

2012-01-27T17:51:00.000-05:00

Thought it best to post now, because once I switch with Virgil and get home, I'm pretty sure I'm going to crash. They came in to check to make sure brace was a good fit, and Xiaoyun got very unhappy very quickly. He ended up not even trying the back part on, since he knew he needed adjustments on the front. One of Xiaoyun's doctors came in in the midst of all this, and changed her orders to give her another days rest before putting on brace and starting therapy. She was relieved and so was I! I must say, this is the worst mood she's been in since getting here that I can remember. She hasn't been friendly with anyone who's come through and hasn't wanted to talk or even let them do blood pressure. I think she's had enough and being in a noisier environment just makes it worse. I completely understand because even I, who's just fine, am weary and uncomfortable. So many surgeries in such a short time Please pray for strength for her and a restful night sleep for her and Virgil (who she keeps asking for over and over). He'll be here soon and that might cheer her up.

And We Wait

2012-01-27T10:18:00.001-05:00

What we hoped would happen last night now probably won't even happen today - there are no rooms, and I know there are at least 10 kids in the ER waiting for a room, so we're now hoping to have a room by tomorrow. The surgeon came in and looked at the incision area. It is dry as a bone, so all is well there. She still has a drain tube in and they want to leave that until tomorrow. The surgeon brought me the leftover instrumentation from her rods. I'll post a picture of these once we have the camera fixed (stopped working yesterday). The rods are smaller than I had thought they would be. I believe we will be having them made into some jewelry at some point after we get home. The side incision site from last week is looking great. I can't believe how well her little body is healing after each incision! Later today, after she gets her brace, physical therapy and occupational therapy will come and help her get out of bed. We'd love extra prayers for today, since rolling over on her side hurts, much less trying to sit up and then stand. I'm sure the brace will also be painful since the drain tube is still in, and the incision site is very tender.

What a Sweetheart!

2012-01-26T19:46:00.003-05:00

Xiaoyun had been asleep for a couple of hours after the pain of the brace molding. She finally woke up and asked for orange sherbet. I went to get it, and when I came back she was trying to tell the nurse something. She was saying she wanted a room. I told the nurse what she was saying, and she said there are 4 kids waiting for a room and they aren't sure when she'll get one. Once she told Xiaoyun this, Xiaoyun looks at her and says 'You need to get my Mama a new chair. She can't sleep in that chair - it is broken" (the chair is broken, and Virgil spent a very uncomfortable night in it last night). Can you believe it? Here she has been through so much pain, and she's worried that I won't have a good place to sleep tonight!!!!!!!! WOW!!!!

Brace Molding

2012-01-26T18:09:00.001-05:00

Yesterday's post said they made the mold for her brace while in surgery (which is what we were told would happen), but unfortunately they did not do that. They came in earlier to make one, and once they realized her back is not flat, they left and came back later with some help. It was a rough 30 - 40 minutes, to say the very least. They laid a cloth over her and used the fiberglass - like they use to make a cast - to make a mold of her front. That was painful, because they had to smooth it all down, which included the area where she had had the chest tube and the anterior/side incision. Then it really got ugly. They had to flip her over on her stomach (with her begging and crying for them not to), and make a mold of the back. I can not begin to imagine how much it hurt to have them touching the incision area on the back. It broke my heart not to be able to do anything about the pain. She had to lay that way until the fiberglass had dried and then the process of flipping her back over. She is sleeping now, thankfully. We are still waiting to get into a room again. The paperwork is complete, but right now all the beds are full. It will be good to get to a room. She is in a bed beside a little one and it is pretty noisy at times. They will have her brace ready tomorrow and then they will be getting her up. I know that will be very difficult, but necessary to begin the process of getting her well enough to go home.

Yes, Pam, she loves anything crafty, and loves to read, but she isn't reading English yet - still simplified Chinese (though we're working on the English :-) ! )

Xiaoyun's address

2012-01-25T22:28:00.002-05:00

Would love to get mail from those of you who have asked!!!
Evelyn (Xiaoyun) Willoughby
c/o Kosair's Children's Hospital
231 E. Chestnut Street
Louisville, KY 40202

Room number will change,but they are good about finding us :-)

From those who have already sent messages - THANK YOU!! They mean so much!!!

Another Successful Surgery

2012-01-25T19:36:00.001-05:00

Praise God!!! She's finished her fourth and final surgery! It didn't go as smoothly as they would have liked, but overall it went well. They put what the surgeon calls 'hooks' in the left side on T1 and T3, and also some hooks in the L1-3 level.When they tried to put a rod in however, the area around the hook at the T3 level crumbled. They were able to put a hook at T5, and ended up using two rods on the left side. That way they were able to adjust the rods as they went and once everything looked good they fixed the rods together permanently. Unfortunately, on the right side they were unable to put a rod in at all. Her spine is turned 180* on that side, and in order to put a rod in they would have had to cut through all the muscles in that area. Since her body already has a tendency to hunch forward on that side, the muscles (that would never be as strong again after being cut) would not have kept her as upright as she needed. Because of that she will still have some compression of the lungs on that side, but it will be better since her diaphragm has more space now. The ribs on the other side he described as now being spaced apart verses almost touching each other, so that lung has really been opened up. He estimates that she is now somewhere between 65* and 75* curvature (she was at 150*!!!). They made the mold for her brace while still in surgery, and it should be ready in 2-3 days. She can't walk until she gets the brace, but will be able to sit up. Once home, she will have to wear the brace all the time except when she is in the bed. She should need it for somewhere from 3-6 months depending on how she fuses. I'm fairly confident she will not be happy with the brace, because it will come up to her chin in the front (since the top left fusion area wasn't as strong, they need to make sure she keeps her neck upright while the bones are fusing.)
Prayers tonight for her pain and for rest for both her and Virgil. Our goal is to be out of PICU as soon as possible and back on a floor. Thank you so very much for all the prayers that continue to be prayed on her behalf!!!

She's in Surgery

2012-01-25T08:18:00.001-05:00

Here is a pic right before they wheeled Xiaoyun back for her final surgery. As you can see, she's quite the trooper and was smiling until the medicine went to work. It was a restless night for us all. Probably a combination of anticipation, and little ones in the rooms on each side of us that were not happy most of the night.
Dr. Johnson gave us the rundown. Please forgive me for giving a very simplified version of what he said - I have a copy of the technical terminology and will post that later- but for now here is the gist of it: They will go in and remove temporary rods (going through the same incision as two weeks ago - posterior) and halo (YEAH!); she will have a CT that will give a 3-D image of where they are and what they want to do; they bring in 'Navigation System' which will guide the doctors and also do some of the surgery, since her vertebrae are so tiny. This system is very precise, but also slow, so things will take longer.; build her backbone from T2-L3; do more CT with 3-D imaging as they go along; and put in permanent rods. She will be hooked up to a neuromonitoring system, that watches muscles twitches, etc. to make sure neurologically they do no damage.
This is the most delicate of the surgeries and the longest (because of the down time waiting for the CT scans). Please continue those prayers!

Gift From Addison Jo Blair Foundation

2012-01-24T21:00:00.000-05:00

This is a picture of Xiaoyun as she checked out a gift basket given to her by the Addison Jo Blair Foundation last night. Addison Jo was a little girl from our hometown who fought a brave battle with cancer. Her parents started this foundation to honor her memory. As we realized who the gift was from, it was all I could do not to start crying (which would not have been the best thing for Xiaoyun prior to surgery). We had prayed for this little one and her family, not so very long ago. Addison Jo continues to bless others with these gifts that bring a smile to a child's face. Thank you Blair family!!!!!!

Almost at the finish line

2012-01-24T19:29:00.000-05:00

Xiaoyun was playing a game and didn't realize her Mamaw had just arrived from Alabama!

We are coming to the end of the surgeries. Tomorrow around 8 am, Xiaoyun's 4th and final surgery will begin. Her Mamaw came in today to stay for a couple of weeks, which makes logistics so much easier with Elli and Enya. Xiaoyun had another furry visitor today that, from what I've heard, shared many kisses with Xiaoyun. She also had several human visitors, and cards and messages from around the states and even Spain! (And yes, friend in Australia, she'd love a message from Australia!!!) She got one from Singapore yesterday! It will probably be later into the evening tomorrow before I am able to update after surgery (unless there is a big gap between when the surgeon talks with us and she gets to PICU, in which case, I'll post sooner). Thankfully they treated for the UTI and that will not be an issue with the surgery. I continue to be amazed at her resiliency! Truly she is a miracle - when I think of what has happened in the last year and how God orchestrated all this, it just awes me!!! Thank you in advance for extra prayers in the next few days!!!

Xin Nian Kuai Le - Happy Chinese New Year!!

2012-01-23T22:30:00.000-05:00

It is late, so I'll give just a brief update. Xiaoyun had a good day today. She and I were both blessed to get a massage from a sweet girl who wanted to be a blessing - and it was a blessing that we both enjoyed! Xiaoyun enjoyed having those little hands and feet pampered, and my shoulders felt better than they have since we started our hospital stay. Thank you Andrea!!! The art therapists came in and helped her make a crown to wear once her 'crown' (halo) is removed on Wednesday. In true Xiaoyun style, it is 'blingy', to say the least. She had several visitors today, and got a scrapbook that we will start filling up with pictures and cards once she gets through the next surgery. It will be good motivation to get up out of bed and sit in a chair. They did discover she has a UTI, and she received medication a few minutes ago that will hopefully take care of it. I'm thankful it was caught before we were any closer to surgery - we'd sure hate to have to delay it for any reason. Virgil, Elli and Enya came up this evening so we could rotate out, and we all celebrated Chinese New Year by eating the Chinese food brought to us yesterday. We will have a belated New Year celebration once Xiaoyun is home from the hospital.

Our Chinese New Year Celebration

2012-01-23T19:43:00.000-05:00

Here is a photo of our Chinese New Year ;-) Elli and LiLi (Enya) were really getting into the stir fry! Xiaoyun is wearing her special glasses, so she can see all the action.

Questions/ Answers for posters

2012-01-23T17:23:00.000-05:00

-Xiaoyun means little cloud and is pronounced sh (as in ship) ow (as in cow) yeen
-Aus, I can't figure out to email you (not very computer literate)
-Next surgery is Wednesday morning (final surgery - yeah!!) and will begin around 8 am and will last most of the day. A lot of that is down time. They will do a bit, then do a CT and check progress, and also use a machine that is very exact and does part of the procedure for the surgeons (can't think of the name of that right now and will post that later).
At this point we do not know what her final curvature will be, nor how many inches she will gain.
They will have her up walking the 3rd day and we'll be able to measure her then (we are excited about that :-) !)
The rods they will put in are permanent and are designed to keep her back stable until the vertebrae fuse together. She will not be able to bend where the fusion is done, so bending will take place from waist down.
She will have a brace molded to her body after surgery, that she will wear for 3-6 months after surgery.
- Leonor and Juan, we haven't received card yet, but are looking forward to it!!!
-Thanks to all who have shared her video and all who have sent cards and well wishes (along with lots of goodies!!!!)

Another Sunday Down

2012-01-22T22:20:00.001-05:00

Emily, LiLi, Zak, and Elli

Xiaoyun's decorated halo (courtesy of big brother zak)

PICC line is working again!! So glad whatever the problem was, resolved itself so they didn't have to go in and redo that PICC. Her brother Zak, had to go back to Minnesota this afternoon, but we were all really glad to have the weekend with him. They got in quite a few movies and he decorated her halo. Her food intake has been pretty good today. Her great Aunt Estell brought her a lot of Chinese food for supper, and we'll enjoy it again tomorrow to help us celebrate Chinese New Year (Happy Chinese New Year, John, if you are reading this!!!! Girl's were excited to get your message! They are doing so well! ) . Xiaoyun has been blessed with prayers and good wishes from around the world. We are truly thankful for each one!

2012-01-21T22:04:00.000-05:00

Xiaoyun had a busy day today. She had to have three chest x rays (which are painful) and got the chest tube removed (Yeah!). The PICC line issue was never resolved. She is still using the IV in the other arm and waiting for the IV team to determine if the PICC is still good. The x ray of the PICC showed no infiltration, and they are going to try just putting fluids in it again to see what will happen. By this evening she will be back up to her full 18 pounds of traction. She is quite happy to leave it on at all times, which is a good thing, since that will help determine how straight she ends up being in the end. Her incision down the back is looking great and seems to be healing nicely (though if I understand correctly, they go in the same incision again for the last surgery). She's eating well and all in all doing very well considering all that she's been through the last few weeks.

Change of Plans

2012-01-20T22:24:00.000-05:00

Xiaoyun (with special glasses on) and Zak

So the slumber party was not meant to be. Xiaoyun had had a good afternoon, enjoying being with Zak and eating a bit. One of the child life specialist's had procured for her the one and only pair of special glasses in the hospital that allowed her to watch the tv while looking straight up at the ceiling. She was having a blast with those glasses and we were having a fun time, when all of the sudden she started telling me that under her arm felt swollen. I didn't think much about it, since it was around the area of her incision, and didn't look abnormal to me. A few minutes passed, and she started complaining about that area hurting and being hot. She looked at me and said "Mama, I'm not strong" I didn't know what she was talking about, but she went on to say that she was going to cry. Oh My Heart!!!! I quickly assured her that strong people cry and it was fine to let it out. The nurse came in and thought perhaps her PICC line had been infiltrated (leaking out). An x ray was ordered, and all her meds/fluids moved to her other arm where a backup IV was located. By then she was really hurting and the x ray made it much worse. They gave her some more medicine and once the fluids had been out of her PICC line for a bit, she settled down and started feeling better.Virgil walked into the midst of the chaos, and plans were changed and he stayed with Xiaoyun and Zak. The x ray showed no infiltration, but they're not sure what is going on yet. The IV team will come in the morning and decide what to do. Hopefully she will not have to have another IV started tonight, but I'm afraid with all the stuff going into that one vein, it might blow. Please continue to keep her in your prayers!!!!

2012-01-20T12:19:00.003-05:00

Xiaoyun rested better last night, though I could hear the pain pump being pushed fairly often. Early this morning they came in to do an xray and it didn't come out clear enough, so they came back in to do it again. Sliding that hard film under her back was very uncomfortable, and since then she's had a hard time resting. She had said over and over that her pain pump wasn't working, so they finally increased the amount of meds and now she's finally sleeping. She will be on her back until the next surgery, because her back is now unstable with all they did this previous surgery. The surgeons continue to be pleased, and this morning the other surgeon came in and mentioned how much everybody in the hospital thinks of Xiaoyun. Even in the midst of the pain, she continues to say thank you when someone comes in.
Her older brother, Zak, should have just landed at the Louisville airport a few minutes ago. He flew in from Minnesota just to be with her for this weekend. He and Emily (our 19 year old daughter) are planning on staying with Xiaoyun tonight and having movie and popcorn, if she's feeling like it. The secretary on the floor heard they were having a 'slumber party' and brought in bags of popcorn for them this morning. We continue to be blessed by all those who we come into contact with here at Kaosairs!!!

I've included pictures of PICU (where she goes after surgery each time), and of the view from her new room. It's hard to see, but she was trying to give a little smile in the pic.

Prayers Answered!

2012-01-19T20:50:00.003-05:00

Thank you all for the prayers! Xiaoyun and Virgil were able to rest some last night, despite being in a very loud area. Xiaoyun's only request, besides saying more pain medicine, was to be in her old room. She has such a hard time resting when there is a lot of commotion. When the surgeon came in this morning, that was what she asked him, and he was happy to oblige!!!!! We were so surprised, since we figured we'd be in PICU for several days, given the type of surgery she had had. I guess the doctor could also see how agitated she was with all the noise. We finally got to a room around 7 this evening and she's been resting since we got here. It surprised me the difference in her just getting into a peaceful area. The surgeon is very happy with how she is doing. He said in the 30 years he's been a surgeon, she's been the best patient he has had - every surgery going better than expected. Praise God for that!!!!! She's even eaten some solid food today, which is a huge improvement over last time. Will post more in the am.

3rd surgery complete/ much pain

2012-01-18T19:19:00.000-05:00

Xiaoyun's 3rd surgery went well according to her surgeon. He was pleased with the amount of movement she had. They were able to remove 6 discs (they were hoping to remove 5), a wedge piece of two vertebrae, and a rib. The rib will be 'banked' until the next surgery, at which time it will be ground up and used to help fuse the vertebrae together. I'm not sure if the wedge of vertebrae was also saved for that purpose. She had to have a unit of blood, along with what they called 'cell saver', where they take the blood she loses during surgery, put it through a machine and then put back into her. She has a chest tube that we hope to have out in 2 days. We knew this surgery would be bad, but what I didn't realize is that they say this incision is considered more painful than if she'd had to be cut open for open heart surgery. She got to PICU around 3pm, and has been in quite a bit of pain since then. She has to lie flat for the first 4 hours and that is so uncomfortable for her. She kept begging for a pillow over and over again.
This is Virgil's night to stay with her, and since we didn't get much sleep last night, he sent me on home to try and rest before my long day/night tomorrow. Unfortunately, PICU is full, so she is in the open bay area, which will make it even more difficult for her to rest. As I am leaving, in the midst of all her pain, she says " Love you Mama, be careful driving home" Needless to say, I could barely see to get to the elevators because I was crying so hard. These surgeries are ripping my heart out, but also showing what a brave, incredible girl we have been blessed to have in our family! PLEASE say extra prayers for Xiaoyun tonight and in the next few days. They will be difficult ones for her.

Gearing up for Surgery #3

2012-01-17T19:14:00.001-05:00

It's a shame that when you start feeling much better, you have to start all over again, but that is where we're about to be. The surgery is slotted for 9 am tomorrow. Today, except for a while this morning, has been a good day. She's able to get out of bed fairly easily on her own, and walked her loop around the floor pretty quickly. The child life therapist helped her create some jewelry today from a kit some sweet people brought her yesterday. She received quite a few cheer cards and mail today and loved it all!!!! We'll be sporting some Hello Kitty fingernails as soon as we're allowed to, thanks to JunFen ;-). Her older sister is trying to talk her out of a really cute purse and some jewelry two other sweethearts sent her. The outpouring of love continues to amaze and humble me. We are so blessed! She also had a furry visitor again today. As you can see by the photo, she loves animals! To top the day off, her Aunt Tonya brought her some Chinese food with the special sauce that she loves. I'm glad today has been a good one, since I know how hard the next few will be.

Xiaoyun making her crafts

Xiaoyun checking out our sleeping arrangements

Xiaoyun and her fun visitor

The world's largest balloon

*The excitement keeps coming! The 'balloon angels' as they are called, just came in with an armload of balloons and asked Xiaoyun which one she wanted. No kidding, when she saw the balloons she started screaming and laughing!!! She picked the biggest balloon they had and just thinks that's the coolest thing in the world LOL!

2012-01-16T23:04:00.000-05:00

Xiaoyun had a restless night - couldn't get comfortable and complained about her back itching. She had what looked like a blister next to her incision that was bothering her, and at some point through the night it finally broke open. The doctors seem to think it was a reaction to some tape used during the surgery, but aren't sure. We had about one solid 1 1/2 hours sleep and the rest was intermittent. This morning the surgeon came by and said all looked well for the next surgery on Wednesday. It is an anterior cut that is on the right side. They will remove another rib and vertebrae/discs. I asked him how many, and his reply was "As many as we can get our hands on - probably about five." He thinks the surgery will be shorter than the last one, and we're praying she bounces back quicker than the last one. It will be such a relief when we can finally get the halo/traction off of her, though that won't happen until the final surgery. The physical therapist came and had her walk a loop around the floor this morning - probably about 200 yards, and we did the same stroll again this afternoon. She did have one really rough spell early afternoon, but once I got her up in the wheelchair and distracted, she calmed down (thank goodness!). The child life therapist came by to have Xiaoyun paint a paper hot air balloon and make origami cranes late this afternoon, and that was very enjoyable to Xiaoyun. The therapist hung them from her ceiling and it appears as though we have a flock of cranes flying overhead. By the time Baba got there for the evening, she was doing much better and moving freely (though slowly) on her own - such a difference than just a couple of days ago!

*BTW - if you sent Xiaoyun a cheer card the last few days, she didn't receive them. They had a glitch with their computer and lost some messages. If you wouldn't mind to resend them, she'd really love to get them!!!

nortonhealthcare.com - click on Cheer Cards, and put Evelyn Willoughby (not sure if just Xiaoyun Willoughby would get to her. Thanks so much!

2012-01-15T20:57:00.003-05:00

Baba and his baby

Getting out of bed alone for 1st time since 2nd surgery. So glad to see that smile again!!!!

What an Improvement!!!!

2012-01-15T19:35:00.002-05:00

Today has been so much better! Xiaoyun is actually walking to the bathroom, and even managed to walk down the hallway. She sat up for a couple of hours in her wheelchair, and has eaten quite a bit more food than she has in days. Her pain pump and IV are gone (still has PICC line, but not using it). We actually got to laughing about something, until it hurt her too much to laugh! The surgeon still is planning on Wednesday surgery. Besides removing some vertebrae and discs, they are also going to remove another rib. This will be an anterior cut. She's sitting up right now reading Diary of a Wimpy Kid (in Simplified Chinese), which is a far cry from where we were just two days ago. Praise the Lord for answered prayers!!!

2012-01-14T22:07:00.002-05:00

Xiaoyun made some good progress today. She got out of bed to sit in her wheelchair for a while, and walked to the bathroom twice today!!! She also ate a bit of her lunch and 20 bites of supper (we now have to count every bite and every ounce going into her, since she went so long without eating a bite). She's back up to her 18 pounds of traction - think about that for a minute - 18 pounds of weight pulling on her head, with an incision going down her back that is 12 inches long (all on a girl who is 46 inches tall and 46 pounds!!!) It is incredible what she is going through. Praise God for answering prayers!!!
I went up for the afternoon and came home to be with the other girls tonight. When I got home, I find out Elli had just finished getting the blood cleaned off her. She fell getting off the chair and caught the corner of the chair. Elli didn't say much about it, and it wasn't until Emily realized there was blood getting on her that they realized what had happened. She had a cut on her head about 1 1/2 inches long. Elli didn't start crying until she realized that there was blood running down her face. I cleaned her up some more, and fortunately it doesn't appear deep, though I'll keep an eye on her tonight. Not sure how much more excitement we can stand around here!

Lest it seem as though all I do is complain, I do want to take a minute and say how grateful I am:
For God's peace, and grace and strength
For the prayers of so many
For an incredible staff of people at Kosair's Hospital who are taking such good care of us all
For those who have fixed food
For those special people who are watching the girls everyday for us
For every email, Cheer Card, gift, handmade card, text message, phone call and love sent to Xiaoyun from all over the country
For the incredible strength and love of my husband and Xiaoyun's Baba
For the sweet prayers Elli and LiLi pray all day long for 'Xiaoyun and Baba and Mama'
For Em's help with the girls
For Xiaoyun's brothers, sisters, and family (and so many friends!!) that care so much
For so many more things that will have to wait for another day :-)

God is GOOD!!!!!!!

Thanks for those prayers!!

2012-01-14T11:49:00.000-05:00

Sorry I didn't post last night. By the time I got home from the hospital and put Elli and Enya to bed, I had reached my limit and went to bed myself. Xiaoyun did get up twice yesterday - not by choice. She begged and cried to not be moved, which is difficult for a Mama who knows it has to be done. The second time she was up, she walked a few steps (with a lot of assistance) to have her standing xray done. Once we left there, we were able to go straight to the new floor (YEAH! The people in PICU are great, but it is a busy, noisy place, which makes it difficult for her to rest). It was a productive day - drain tube removed, dressing changed, sponge bath and teeth brushed, stood up twice, and moved rooms. Needless to say, by the time Virgil got there last night and I left, she had spiraled into crying and was not able to get comfortable. She was up to 13 pounds of traction before I left last night, so I'm guessing we are now at 15 pounds. Virgil said she (they) had a long night and the pain really kept her agitated. She did finally eat some jello yesterday afternoon, but I fully expected the feeding tube to be put in this morning. About 2 am, however, Virgil had a talk with her and told her if she didn't start eating what would happen. She asked "What's a feeding tube?". He told her and immediately she said she wanted some chips ;-). Since then she's eaten chips, part of breakfast, and I believe another jello. She also ordered stir fry for lunch. The doctors said this morning they want her up in her chair twice a day and walking a little today. I'll post more this evening!

Prayers Please!

2012-01-13T12:03:00.000-05:00

Xiaoyun is feeling rough right now. Moving her causes quite a bit of pain. The therapist comes in around 2 this afternoon and will get her up and walk with her, which we know will hurt. If you have a moment around that time, we'd love all the prayers we can get!!! Also, they said if she didn't start eating and getting enough nutrients in today they will be placing a feeding tube down her nose. I was able to get her to eat maybe 2 ounces of chicken noodle soup a few minutes ago, which is the first food she's had since the night before surgery.

2012-01-12T18:12:00.002-05:00

Xiaoyun is resting well right now. This morning she was in quite a bit of pain, so they decided not to get her up or do the chest x-ray (since it is a standing x-ray). All that will happen in the morning, so hopefully she'll get a good rest tonight. Her blood pressure has been low, so they are backing off her pain medicine some. She's also running a 101.5 fever, that they're keeping an eye on. They feel once she gets moving tomorrow, that will go away. She did talk with me a bit (though she can only whisper right now) and we opened get well cards from all around the country. Those did bring a tiny smile to her face. She's back up to 7 pounds of traction and that will increase by a pound every 4 hours. If she isn't eating by tomorrow they will have to start some IV nutrition through her PICC line. She had some more nausea earlier today, but none this afternoon, so hopefully that is passing.
Virgil and I continue to rotate nights home with the girls (except the night prior to surgery when we both stayed up here). I can't begin to tell you how hard it is being an hour away from Xiaoyun when I'm with the other girls, or being away from the other ones when I'm up here at the hospital. It breaks my heart to have to say goodbye to my girls everyday. I'm so thankful for family and friends who take such good care of the girls while I'm away, but still it is hard. My heart goes out to those families who deal with long term health issues with their children. While the hello kisses are so sweet, those goodbye kisses just about do me in. I'm so grateful that we already have two of the surgeries behind us and that there is a light at the end of this tunnel. I'm even more grateful God is carrying each of us through this and doing it in such a mighty way! He continues to work miracles!!!!! Continued thanks for all your prayers!!!!!

Sweet Sleep

2012-01-12T08:57:00.000-05:00

Virgil said Xiaoyun slept through most of the night, which is a praise! Today will be a different story, I'm sure, because the therapists will be coming in to get her moving some, and they want her to start walking. One of the doctors came by this morning and said she could grow quite a bit - some because of the procedure, but even after it is complete they said she'll continue to grow some. They said she has a lot of flexibility (which is incredible considering her curvature). The surgeon hasn't been in yet, so I'll update more later.
Prayers for today: they start her back on her traction, she has to start walking, and for the chest xray (to make sure there are still no tears in the pleura).

*Someone had asked about nutrition - they have found a high protein/ calorie juice drink that she will drink, she really likes the ice cream, and they found a stir fry she really likes (though not on the menu they made her one with everything in it she thought sounded good) They are trying to stay ahead of any nausea, which will make a big difference with the appetite. Today we'll start trying to entice her with any and everything, since the pain med will keep her from having much appetite.

Successful Surgery Number 2

2012-01-11T21:56:00.000-05:00

Sorry it has taken me all day to post this. It's been a long day. Xiaoyun finally got to PICU around 2:30 this afternoon. The pleura has remained intact (so far), so no chest tube was needed. She did, however, need a unit of blood when all was said and done. From what we can tell, it appears she has about a twelve inch incision down her back. Of course, it is bandaged up, so we'll probably know more about that tomorrow. The surgeon said her spine is turned almost completely around at one point from where it should be.They removed parts of four ribs (which the surgeon said will grow back to some extent), and put in the rods. They were very encouraged after opening her up to see what a difference the traction and temporary rods were making, especially in her lower back. She goes for another chest xray tomorrow to see if there were any tears. They want her up walking some tomorrow and they begin her traction again in the morning (they gave her a break today). They'll start her back at 5 pounds and then gradually build back up to 18 pounds just in time for another surgery next Wednesday.
Speaking of next Wednesday, the surgeon was really stressing the fact she shouldn't do any more pain medicine than is absolutely necessary after tomorrow, because it will cut her appetite down, which in turn may cause her to heal slowly from this surgery (which would mean having to postpone the next surgery). We'd appreciate prayers for a good appetite and minimal amounts of pain so she can avoid the medicine.
More to follow in the morning when I can think a little clearer!

One week and two surgeries down!!! Praise God!!!!!!!!

She's in surgery

2012-01-11T08:24:00.001-05:00

Xiaoyun went back for her surgery around 7:15 am. Thanks to a great nurse, who was right there with her pain medicine every two hours, and all the prayers, we all slept last night. It was the best night sleep we've had since getting here. She was doing fine this morning when she went back, and graced us with one last smile before they wheeled her back. The surgeon said it could take 3 - 6 hours, and they had no way of knowing until they start the procedure. Since they are putting in a temporary rod, they will drop her traction weight down to 5 pounds after surgery and then slowly build back up. When they go in to remove the ribs, they said there is a chance that the pleura (?), the paper thin outer covering of the lungs, may tear. It that happens they will have to put in a chest tube. He said where they cut the ribs there could be rough end that could tear the tissue after the surgery is over. If that is the case, she will start having difficulty breathing, and they will need to insert a chest tube at that time. He said that may happen even 3 days after surgery. Just something to watch for. Will update more as we get updates. Thank you all for the prayers!!!

Xiaoyun, last night (Day 7) playing with Baba's glasses

Another Long Night

2012-01-10T10:07:00.000-05:00

Virgil and Xiaoyun had another long night (we seem to be getting into a pattern here!). It wasn't until at least 3 am before she went to sleep (or Virgil) She couldn't get comfortable and even though they changed her position numerous times, it didn't seem to help. At a little after 4 am she tried to talk Virgil into taking a walk around the floor. She was trying to get off the traction ;-) . Unfortunately for her, they want her to be on as much as posible in preparation for the sugery. The xray showed that the traction is really helping the lower back in particular. She went in for a PICC line this morning around 9:30. Dr. Johnson talked with Virgil this morning, and said they will be removing 5 or 6 ribs (the info yesterday was from an assistant and I'm not sure if they were looking at the wrong part of the file or if they changed their minds after seeing the xray) and inserting the temporary rods at 7:30 tomorrow morning. This is a posterior cut and we're not sure how long the incision will be. Hopefully we will all be able to get some rest tonight, because I'm not sure how much we'll be getting for a while after the surgery.

2012-01-09T14:47:00.000-05:00

Xiaoyun had two of the friendliest visitors ever today! We loved her smile so much we had to share! She's still getting queasy at times, but they are doing a good job of managing that and the pain. We actually got an hour nap this morning (thanks to phenergen!!!). They came in and took an xray while in traction, but no word yet on how that looked. They also got her an air mattress just a few minutes ago, so we're hoping that will help with the back pain.

Tulips from her cousin Mandy

Xiaoyun also received some cards from families around the country whom we've never met. We are united with these families, however, by the special bond of adoption. I'm going to bring a map up tomorrow and we'll start marking off all the different states she receives messages from. I must confess, just reading these cards choked me up and it was all I could do not to start bawling!!! So many people showering our sweet daughter with love!!!!!!! We thank you all!!!

Rough Night/ Good Day

2012-01-08T22:32:00.000-05:00

Xiaoyun and Virgil had a long night. She's now up to 18 pounds of traction and it was causing muscle spasms. The most sleep they got at any given time was about 30 minutes They started her on muscle relaxers this morning and that has made a world of difference. She has been hours now without pain medicine and it's been about 7 hours since she got the muscle relaxer. She has walked the floor several times and had quite a few visitors today. We took a tour of the ICU, where she will be after the surgery on Wednesday. She likes her room here in this area, and is not happy she'll have to relocate for a while. I don't think she'll even be aware of which she room she has once the surgery is over :-( . She goes for xrays tomorrow to see how the traction is working. I've took a picture (below) of her bed with traction on so you can have some idea of her setup. Also, she posed in front of her wall covered with messages sent to the hospital for her. I'll update more after xrays tomorrow!!!

4th Day Down

2012-01-07T21:28:00.000-05:00

They say a picture is worth a thousand words, so here is how Xiaoyun is feeling:

Mama winning at Trouble

Baba getting a hearty laugh out of Xiaoyun - a beautiful sound!

Today was the best day so far. She is up to 16 pounds (maybe 17lbs. by the time I finish writing this). The only problem today was a little nausea. The smell of the food seemed to bother her. They are concerned she is not getting enough nutrients and are trying to find some sort of supplement drink she can tolerate. She can tolerate oreo cookies however ;-) !!! She took several strolls around the floor and moved her head quite a bit more while in traction. Thank you all for continued prayers - they are working!!!!

A bit about Xiaoyun

2012-01-07T12:03:00.000-05:00

I had someone ask a little info about Xiaoyun. She turned 14 yrs. old, 15 minutes after we arrived back in Louisville from China (May 2011). She's from the province of Guizhou. Xiaoyun has a 150 degree S curvature of her spine that had never been treated. Her lungs are very compromised (she has 33% lung function). She is getting a series of four surgeries in the next 6 weeks or so to correct the spine as much as possible and give her lungs room to expand.

2012-01-06T22:30:00.000-05:00

Xiaoyun's day 3 went fairly well. It seemed like a constant day of adjusting traction so she could get into a comfortable position. Once we hit that 15 lbs. it really started to bother her neck and back. At supper time she told me her leg had fallen asleep, which sent me quickly to find the nurse. The surgeon had told us to watch for two things - her eyes not tracking properly and any odd sensations in her legs. The doctor had them remove a pound and once that happened the tingling went away. They put the weight back on last night before bed, and I think she is going to be able to tolerate it. 5 more pound to go. I still find it incredible that they can put 20 pounds of weights attached to the skull of a child who only weighs 46 pounds! Her appetite is better and I think we're over the nausea for now.
Xiaoyun had a visitor yesterday - Coach Strong, the U of L football coach. He had some other people from the college with him, and they were visiting the kids on Xiaoyun's floor. He was very friendly, stayed several minutes to talk with Xiaoyun, and then gave her a little bear dressed as a U of L cheerleader.
Xiaoyun also got a gift from a hospital donor - an American Girl Doll (her first) complete with her own wheelchair! Xiaoyun couldn't stop smiling :-) Right after that, a package arrived from her friend Mia (and her family) that had a bear dressed in a complete scrub outfit (Emily, our older daughter who's in nursing school, is planning on taking that from Xiaoyun when she's not looking- LOL).
The art therapist came in and they painted butterflies and dragonflies that they will be making into a mobile in the morning, and will hang from the ceiling above her bed.
We're pretty sure if Xiaoyun could get the nurses to bring her her pain medicine every hour instead of two hours, she'd never leave the hospital!!!!!!

2012-01-06T18:16:00.001-05:00

Princess Xiaoyun wearing her crown and sitting on her throne.

Quick update

2012-01-06T12:13:00.004-05:00

All is going well. Xiaoyun rested as much as you can rest in a hospital when you are having weight added to your traction through the night. She is up to 14 pounds and it is now starting to bother her neck. If you can imagine having 4 screws inserted into your skull, attached to a metal ring, that is attached to a rope/pulley, that is attached to 14 pounds of weights, you can probably understand why she is in pain. It makes me hurt just looking at it!!!! I will post more later today - I think I am still in a haze myself right now ;-)

Update on Day 2

2012-01-05T19:44:00.002-05:00

Xiaoyun is doing better today, though still having some problems with nausea. Right now she is sleeping peacefully beside me, thanks to pain medicine and nausea medicine. She now has 11 pounds of traction on her and it is very uncomfortable for her. The surgeon came by today and said he'd like for her to get up to 20 pounds of traction. She and Virgil took a tour of the floor with a special wheelchair and once she wakes up, she and I are going to try and get up and explore the floor we are on. Everyone has been so kind, and this hospital truly caters to the kids - from the nurses (we've had two wonderful ones so far) to the volunteers. They brought Xiaoyun an email that someone sent (thank you Mihelic family!) - the hospital has a link on their site so you can send messages and they print them out and bring them to the room. It is a huge blessing to be in a place that has Xiaoyun's best interest at heart and desire to make her as comfortable and engaged as possible. Tomorrow she will have an art therapist come in to do crafts with her if she is feeling up to it. We thank you all for your continued prayers!!!

Day 2

2012-01-05T08:35:00.000-05:00

I came home last night and Virgil stayed with Xiaoyun. After I left, Xiaoyun started running a fever, but thankfully it is now gone. The update I just received was that she did fairly well through the night. They actually got a solid two hours sleep from 4-6 am. She tried to eat a bite of breakfast, but said that chewing hurt her head (because of halo). Jello seems to be her only food at this point. Hopefully she can get up moving more today and get a bit more adjusted to her new 'crown'.

*The reason I came home (actually two reasons) would be Elli and Enya. we decided to try to give them as much normalcy as possible while their sister is an hour away in a hospital for 6 weeks. Since both of the girls are still in that attachment/ bonding stage, we felt it best to at least have a part of their normal routine everyday. I will say, however, leaving the hospital last night was SO difficult, and had Virgil not been pushing me out the door I'm not sure I could have left. Elli and Enya have been so sweet, and I've heard them stop and pray with each other several times for their 'Xiaoyun jiejie (big sister)'.

Xiaoyun's surgery

2012-01-04T13:00:00.000-05:00

Xiaoyun's first surgery went well. They were able to place the halo using only the 'I don't care what you do to me' medicine, and it went very quickly. Unfortunately, nausea has been a problem since she got into her room and both nausea meds they've given her have proven somewhat unsuccessful. They had to start giving her some fluids via IV and right now she's sleeping peacefully. They have started her out with 5 pounds of traction and will increase a pound every few hours. The goal is 10 - 12 pounds.
A major praise is that Xiaoyun gave her life to the Lord last night!!!!!!! She also told us she wasn't scared because she knew God was taking care of her, people were praying for her, and Baba and Mama would be right here with her.
We are at the beginning of a long six week hospital stay. The goal is 4 surgeries to happen during that time. The second surgery will be to remove ribs that have grown up into her spine and to insert temporary rods. They think that may take place next Wednesday. Xiaoyun's curvature is 150* and her lung function is only 33% so every surgery carries a great deal of risk. They do hope to bring her curvature down to 80* and give the lungs room to expand.
We thank each of you for your prayers and concern! It has been a long day, so I'll post more tomorrow :-)

2011-12-07T08:32:00.001-05:00

Friends, Please click on link above that says "Xiaoyun Speaks" to watch a video Xiaoyun made, encouraging others to adopt. She saw me preparing some adoption/ orphan care links for our church web page and got all excited. She told me she wanted to tell people, too. Our friend came over and sat the camera in front of her and asked only one question - "What do you want to tell others?". Until she started speaking, we had no idea what she was going to say. What a precious testimony!!! Please feel free to share with anyone who might be blessed by it!
Xiaoyun goes into the hospital for at least 6 weeks in January. She will have 4 surgeries to treat her severe congenital scoliosis. Her first surgery is January 4. We appreciate all who will keep her in their prayers!

The backpack and the haircut

2011-10-10T20:43:00.007-04:00

An empty backpack and a new haircut. Two things that seem totally unrelated at first glance, but a deeper look reveals so much more.

Xiaoyun came to us with a red backpack and a large stuffed bear. Nothing more. She didn't offer to show me what was inside, and I didn't want to ask and make her uncomfortable. While still in China, she pulled out a school yearbook and asked me and mom to sign a page. She didn't show us the rest of the book, but I felt it was a step in the right direction. Eventually, after we got home, she did show us the rest of her yearbook, and pointed out the faces of her friends. Little by little, she pulled out the rest of her treasures from her backpack - stuffed animals her friends gave before she left school, yellow converse sneakers, a small green clock. Finally, she pulled out the photos. There were three pictures. They were of Xiaoyun and her 'China mama' (her foster mom for 9 years), when she was younger. What a treasure they were to have - a connection with her past. That empty backpack was a concrete sign that she was starting to feel at home here.

September 23 was another big milestone for Xiaoyun. What was planned was a routine bang trim for all the girls. Xiaoyun decided, however, that she wanted her hair cut. If you've seen her, you know that she has been letting her hair grow for a very long time. It was obvious from the start that she placed a lot of importance on her hair. Some of mine and Xiaoyun's earliest bonding moments were when I'd dry that long hair in China, and then brush it out before bed. She had shared with me that her 'China mama' would dry her hair and fix it for her. I'd also wondered if she used her hair to hide the scoliosis. She never mentioned it, but I know she is careful with the type of shirt she wears and I thought the hair might also be a covering of sorts.

But that day, before we went for our hair appointment, she told me she wanted it cut. When we got there and told the hair stylist, she tried to talk her out of cutting it. Knowing how Xiaoyun was about her hair, she was afraid she'd be upset once it was cut. She was adamant, however, and showed her the style she wanted. When all was said and done, she had about 11 inches of hair cut off. She loved the finished product (so did the rest of us).

Both things - the empty backpack and the haircut, seemed like a confirmation to me that she feels safe and loved. What a joy that is to this mama's heart!

Teeth lost, money gained

2011-10-06T07:53:00.007-04:00

Elli and Enya have had some excitement in their lives lately. In the last 2 weeks Enya has lost 3 teeth (the first she's lost since comng home). The first she pulled herself and Baba pulled the other two. When she lost that first tooth, we told her she needed to put in under her pillow and see what happened to it. Evidently, none of our girls had heard of the tooth fairie. She was thrilled the next morning that there was money instead of the tooth. Since it worked out so well that time, she had Baba pull another one the next day ;-) . This, however, caused two other girls to be a little bit jealous. Elli immediately set about trying to find a loose tooth she could help along (she had never lost a tooth). Xiaoyun felt she had really gotten a bad deal. She told us " No fair! I didn't know about this in China and didn't get any money when I lost mine". Of course, baba is a softie, so the next morning all three had some money under their pillow (and yes, Enya had more than the other two since she was the one who had lost the tooth). Everyday Elli worked on her tooth and had us checking it constantly to see if it was loose enough. Sunday was the big day - Elli's first tooth was finally pulled. Enya also decided to lose another tooth that day (one I didn't even know was loose), so it was quite exciting the next morning when the girls both woke up. In the video you see the girls holding a little bag, which contained the tooth and then the money. These were bags that jewelry was put in when you purchase it in China, so it was a neat thing to use for the girls.

*For the record, our girls know where the money came from - didn't want them thinking a stranger in a tutu was lurking in their room ;-)

The summer - doctors and surgeries

2011-10-05T21:25:00.002-04:00

Some have asked how we spent our summer. I just added up all our doctor's visits, and since the girls came home we have had 39 different specialists/ pediatric appointments, and one surgery. Many of the appointments were in Louisville, an hour drive away. Enya had her first eye surgery this past Monday. The surgeon is hopeful that she won't need the other two surgeries - we are praying for that, also. It was an outpatient surgery and in less than 6 hours we were back home. LiLi won the hearts of her nurses, and was saying 'thank you so much!' to them as we were leaving. Zeb (my oldest son - 26 yrs old) went with me and LiLi, since he was off that day, so we could save Virgil's vacation days for Xiaoyun's surgery. Everyone evidently thought I'd robbed the cradle, because they all thought he was my husband. It was nice to say this is my oldest child and this is my youngest. The hardest part of the surgery was once we got home. Enya wasn't allowed to run, bend or lift for a week. It's obvious the doctor doesn't know my little whirlwind, or he would have prescribed something to make her sleep for the entire week ;-) ! When Enya first saw her eye after the patch was removed, her comment was 'too big!!' Enya has another surgery on October 24. It will be a repair of her lip. After that, she shouldn't need anymore surgery until she's around 10 yrs old (another repair of her lip and palate).

Xiaoyun has had quite a few appointments to make sure she would be able to have her scoliosis corrected. There were three areas of concern. Her heart was good and strong and her kidneys were both present and functioning. Unfortunately, her lungs were not so good. She has only 33% lung function and she also has asthma. There was a point where the surgeon wasn't sure if surgery was an option because of that, but the pulmonologist gave approval, with the understanding that the surgeries would need to be monitored closely. Also, the threat of pneumonia while in the hospital is a great concern. Xiaoyun will have, what they think now, 4 surgeries over the course of at least six weeks in the hospital. The first surgery is to put a halo on, after which they will do traction and try to stretch the vertebrae as much as possible. The next two will involve removing bone (some of her ribs have grown up into the curve of her spine). Finally, after several weeks of traction she will have rods inserted and 'build' her backbone. We do not have the exact date, but as of now, she will have surgery the beginning of January. This will give us time to try and put some weight on her (she weighs 44 lbs), which the doctor felt was important because the drugs they will give her will cut her appetite. It will also allow us to celebrate their first Thanksgiving and Christmas at home. She has an appointment the end of October with the surgeon. If she hasn't started putting on any weight, they will not schedule the appointment, so please be in prayer that she gains at least 2 pounds before then (so far I think I'm the only one gaining the weight!).

We haven't explained to Xiaoyun exactly what will take place. We don't want her to worry, so we won't say much about it until shortly before the surgeries. She's excited to be able to have the surgery, and at this point that is enough.

Enya's eye

2011-10-01T09:31:00.000-04:00

Enya's eye the day before surgery and the day after surgery. When she first saw the eye, when the patch was removed, she said " too big!" The stuffed animal was given to her by a young lady who had had many eye surgeries when she was a little girl and had carried it with her throughout the surgeries. She wanted to pass it on the Enya, which was so very kind.

Family visits and fun days

2011-09-25T08:30:00.005-04:00

This photo was taken after the girls received a box filled with goodies from a sweet lady who had been following their journey. They were so excited!

Zak, Mandy and Zeza came for a visit. It was the first time Xiaoyun and Enya had met Mandy and Zeza, except for Skype.

Xiaoyun - 14 yrs old

Emily - 19

Zak - 25

Enya (LiLi)- 7

Zeb - 26

Elli- 7

Practicing with chopsticks - Virgil, Elli, Zeb, Dana, Zeza, Zak, Mandy, Enya, Xiaoyun

Mamaw and Papaw's visit

Scary faces

2011-08-20T21:47:00.010-04:00

Today we celebrated Emily's 19th birthday. It is hard to believe it has been that long since she was first placed in my arms. God has blessed me immensely with this beautiful girl. I don't know how I would have made it without Emily - she is such a help with the girls. The love her sisters have for her is so sweet and a testimony to the fact that she is a fantastic older sister. The girls were so excited to go shopping for gifts for Em and each picked out and then decorated their own cards for her. I think Enya was more excited because she hasn't really experienced anything like this before. Xiaoyun's birthday was celebrated only a few hours after we got home, and I don't think Enya had really grasped the concept until Em's birthday. After Emily had opened her gift from Enya, Enya went into her room and picked out some of her own special things and refilled the gift bag and gave it to Em again. Xiaoyun was concerned about getting something special for Em and asked me everyday this week to make sure I was going to take her to the store so she could pick something out. Watching the girls all swarming around Emily waiting their turn to give her their own gift and card, was so touching.
This afternoon the girls got in the little swimming pool Zak and Mandy had bought last weekend when they brought our precious granddaughter down for a visit. (Last week was a wonderful week of visiting first with Mamaw and Papaw David, and then with Zak, Mandy and Zeza!!) I was out there sitting with them while they played, when Virgil snuck around the house with a bucket full of cold water. He splashed us all, and by the time we were finished we were sitting in this little pool - completely clothed - with the girls. As I listened to the girls laughing and playing, I couldn't help but think of our life and what an incredible blessing it is. The girls would have had no more fun if we had a mansion and an in ground pool. Just the fact that we were all together was enough.

Pictures of lake; Mamaw/Papaw's visit; Zak, Mandy and Zeza's visit

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2011-07-19T08:21:00.000-04:00

July pics

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Thoughts from a Mama's heart

2011-07-18T10:06:00.002-04:00

This morning I realized I had neglected the plants around the fish pond and set about pulling the weeds. Enya Li, my early bird, immediately started helping me. She sang, laughed or talked the entire time. As we pulled weeds, she came to a clump of clover and said “Ooh, beautiful!” She picked the clover, and instead of putting it in the pile with the other weeds, she said “Lili de” meaning they were now her’s. As we continued to pull the weeds, I listened to her humming and thought about what a joyful child she is. Everything is like Christmas to her. She appreciates every little thing given to her, and is always quick to say “Thank you, Mama” even if I’m only washing off her hands or giving her a glass of water. To be blessed with the opportunity to see life through the eyes of someone who has never had anything of her own, who has lived in an orphanage all her life, who has done without so many things we call ‘necessities’, is a gift for me. She has given me an appreciation for things I never stopped to consider before. I remember last year, when we brought Elli home, becoming more aware of what I take for granted, but Enya has deepened that awareness. Every night I say her prayers, and when we come to the end she always says ‘amen’ with me. Then she wraps her arms around me and pulls me down and gives me a huge kiss and hug. And every night, as she embraces me, I think what a miracle this is – that a little girl who, for years, had neither father nor mother, is now part of a large family who loves her very much. Today, as we pulled those weeds, I thought of how some consider her (and other orphans) just ‘weeds’. The first picture we saw of Enya was shortly after her surgery for cleft lip. Her face was swollen and it made the ptosis of her right eye even more pronounced. Her file had been on the Waiting Children’s list for several years and had not been updated. When we looked at her picture we knew she was the one who needed us – the child whose file people kept passing over. Their loss has been our gain. Those people fail to see the beauty that is waiting there – waiting to be ‘picked’. Waiting for someone to pick them up and say ‘Ooh, beautiful!’ Waiting to blossom before the eyes of those who will shower them with love.
I pray God helps me to see others as He sees them - 'man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart' 1 Samuel 16:7b

2011-06-17T07:58:00.007-04:00

I am so woefully behind on the blog - sorry! My body is taking a long time to get back to normal, and the girls require most of my energy. All the girls are doing well. Things are settling into a good routine. I realized the other day that we needed to have a chore chart so that I was not the only one doing all the housework. Surprisingly, all the girls were good with that. I explained that my job was to make sure that when they grew up they needed to be able to take care of themselves. Since then, they are pitching in without any complaints (so far!) I have had to lower my expectations about how well a job is done, but honestly, I had already lowered them for myself - it doesn't matter how many times a day you clean the floors or pick up the toys - 20 minutes later it looks as though you never touched the house. I've learned to be a little more laid back on the cleanliness of the house - not sure if that has come with age, or the fact my time is full of more important things - kids on the lap, singing songs, pulling out baby dolls supplies, etc.
We had a flashback the other day. Last year, Elli sat in Virgil's lap and watched Em's dance recital and let us know she wanted to do that too. This year, Enya Li sat on Virgil's lap and watched Emily and Elli dance and let us know she wanted to dance, also. That may end up happening because Emily just became the new dance instructor where she has taken dance for years. Hopefully, Elli and Enya Li can take lessons with her.
Xiaoyun is having a hard time missing her foster family and her friends. We found out this past week she was actually going to a boarding school through the week and came home on the weekends. It is hard for her not to be surrounded by all her friends. She pulled out pictures for us to look at of her class, and also gave me two precious pictures of her and her foster mom. One was made when she was 7 and the other when she was nine. I'm so grateful to have a bit of her past. The foster family had two children of their own - a girl 21 and a boy 19. The girl was married and had a little boy that Xiaoyun was crazy about. There were also two foster brothers in the home. A fourteen year old, who also had scoliosis, and a thirteen year old, who I believe has Hepatitis B. (She has already been tested and does not have it). I can not imagine how hard all this is for her. What is incredible is that she gives us hugs and kisses all the time, loves to sit in your lap, and says 'I love you' frequently. God is a miracle worker!
Elli is doing better with the new family members. She's really taken up with Xiaoyun, and her and Enya Li are finally starting playing together. We still have battles over toys and clothes, but I suppose that is to be expected with two so close in age. Elli has become more emotional, and we have to be careful to make sure she gets as much attention as the other two. She is compassionate when Enya gets hurt and will go get a washcloth and wipe Enya's face, or grab the bandaids if she has a cut or scratch.
Enya continues to be quite the character. She is still up bright and early, but at least she has a smile on her face and gets up in a good mood. She takes delight in the little things. Anything given to her excites her - even if it is a piece of gum. She can turn on the emotions like a switch. She can go from laughing to crying in the blink of an eye. Food continues to be foremost on her mind. She eats non stop. Fortunately, she likes the healthy foods. I sat out cereal around the house for her to snack on, and this week fixed a bucket of snacks that they are allowed to grab any time they want. (We have a bucket of sweets that they must ask for before touching and they are doing fine with that also.) Enya has started singing Jesus Loves Me, and it is precious to hear. We are going to take her to church this Sunday for the first time. It would have been sooner, but the last two weeks we've had someone with strep, three with colds, and one with a mysterious rash in the family. Somehow I didn't think people would appreciate being contaminated ;-) .
The girls got the preliminary labs and x-rays back this week and referrals have now been ordered to all the specialists. Enya needs to have surgery on her eye, and then also surgeries at some point on her lip. Her blood work was good except for low protein (normal given the circumstances) and her lead was a little high. Other than that all looked good. Xiaoyun's labs were about the same. Her xrays showed a 144% curvature, which is considered severe. Hopefully she will be seeing a specialist quickly so we can see what/if anything can be done.
God continues to bless each and every day. We continue to thank God for friends and family who are so faithful to pray for us!

*I've been told by several people that they have been unable to post a comment. For some reason the blog will not accept any comments and the website is trying to work on it.

Xiaoyun's 14th birthday - May 15, 2011

2011-05-27T18:56:00.004-04:00

Welcome home!!!! May 14

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Yes, I know this is out of order and it should have been posted last week - sorry! I'll let the pictures speak for themselves :-)

2011-05-27T15:35:00.001-04:00

First week of our 'new normal'

2011-05-23T21:30:00.005-04:00

It is hard to believe we have been home over a week now. It some ways it seems like we've been home forever, and in others, it feels as if we just got back. The girls are adjusting well. Xiaoyun has started doing some online English practice and she knows more English than I first thought. We don't pull the translator out nearly as often as when we first met. She's been reading the English/Mandarin Bible I bought while in China. She went to church Sunday with Virgil and he said she held his hand almost the entire service - so sweet!
Enya found one of Elli's birthday cards from last year - the type that plays a song when opened - and listened to 'Happy Birthday To You' about a million times (only a slight exaggeration!). She now does a pretty good job singing it. Tonight, for the first time, she said amen when I finished saying prayers with her. I'm pretty sure that, except when she is asleep, she does not stop going. There is way too much for her to see and do and she doesn't want to miss a thing.
Elli is struggling with our 'new normal', and though we know she and Enya will eventually work out their positions as sisters, it is difficult to see her feeling insecure. I suppose that has been the hardest thing for me since we got home - trying to make sure that each child feels loved and important. It is especially challenging when both 7 year olds are clamoring for your attention and neither wants to share it.
Enya believes in getting up sometime between 6 and 7 am. I had the bright idea to have Emily pick up some black out curtains for their bedroom and eagerly anticipated the girls all waking up around 9:30 (in my dreams!!!). Enya was up before 7:00 yet again this morning. I might have to give up the idea of ever having any quiet time for the next 5- 10 years!
I am continually grateful for all the prayers that are prayed on our behalf and ask that you please continue to do so.

quick update

2011-05-18T17:42:00.005-04:00

I know Virgil sent out a note saying we had arrived home safely (I just finally started looking at the blog and comments yesterday - Virgil posted all while we were in China), and I wanted to give a quick update of how things are going. The girls are adjusting well. Virgil and Emily have all the energy that I no longer have. I realized that none of us had taken pictures of the homecoming, so I'll get some on the blog once I get family and friends to send me theirs. Somehow, the same is true of Xiaoyun's birthday party. The girls met some family and friends at the airport, and more at the birthday. I must confess, the thought of a party only hours after returning home was something I wasn't too sure about, but it worked out well, because it kept me and the girls awake during what had been our night time in China. Virgil,Emily, and Elli had decorated the house inside and out, and had everything ready for the party. Xiaoyun LOVED the birthday party. She showed a bit of her spunk by putting frosting on several family member's faces before they realized what was happening (her brothers got her back for us all ;-)!) Enya Li was Miss Personality and enjoyed meeting and saying 'Hello!' to everyone. Virgil has been off this week and I'm so glad for that. The girls have had a blast getting to know their Baba and sisters. It is incredible how loving they have both been to those they have only just met.

Alive and well

2011-05-16T20:04:00.000-04:00

I'm still trying to get my brain to function, but did want everyone to know all is going well. These pictures were taken at the White Swan the day before we left. We didn't stay there this time, but wanted to get the girls a picture on the 'Red Couch' at that hotel. The photos by the waterfall are also at that hotel. I promise to post soon!!!!

2011-05-15T12:23:00.003-04:00

I wanted to let everyone know that the girls did make it home safely. As you would guess, very tired and Enya Li, energetic. They arrived to the Louisville Airport about 11:30 pm. We made it home about 1:00 am. We finally turned out the lights at 4:50, Enya Li was up at 5:20. However, she is taking a nap that's going on two hours. I thank the Lord for providing Cindy with wisdom and safety for everyone. I appreciate all the prayers for our family. Please continue to pray for unity and patience for each of us as we all make adjustments. Cindy will update in the next day or so. Again, thanks to all!

Virgil, Cindy, Emily, Xiaoyun, Elli, & Enya

2011-05-13T13:19:00.004-04:00

Today marks the end of a chapter in our lives and tomorrow begins a new one. These last three weeks were a culmination of months of paperwork and endless prayers prayed for us and by us. We have seen God's hand through out this process - from the whisper to adopt again last July, to the stirring in our hearts in February, when we saw a picture of a girl soon to lose the chance at ever having a family. So many things fell into place to make this possible, that there is no way to deny God's hand in it all. His blessings have flowed in unimaginable ways. Truly we serve a mighty God! You will never know how much your prayers and gifts have meant to us. So many have helped in so many ways… truly we are blessed and so very thankful for each of you! Our final leg of this trip will take 25 hours from the time we leave the hotel at 5:30 am tomorrow to the time we are in the arms of our loved ones. We covet all prayers for the flights and for the girl's adjustment back home. We praise God for all He has done and continues to do in our lives! God bless you all richly!!!

2011-05-13T13:19:00.002-04:00

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We met our guide bright and early this morning to go to the US consulate for the interview and taking of the oath. I signed the final two pieces of paper here in China. Hopefully we will have all paperwork tomorrow, for our return trip. I say hopefully, because their visa system was down this morning and we cannot leave without the issuing of the visa - PLEASE say a prayer that our guide is able to pick them up as scheduled tomorrow at 3:30. We went to the mall this afternoon, and also walked through the open air markets. The sights and smells were unlike any we have at home. It would be difficult to describe - everything from pets, to dried seahorse, to scorpions and everything in between. We learned this afternoon that the hotel had overbooked their rooms and they told us we would have to move to another room tomorrow (for one night!) They were moving us to a room with one king size bed. I pointed out there were four of us and that we had a reservation until Saturday and had already paid weeks ago. They finally relented and said we could move to the room next door (also a king size bed and for $30
we could rent a roll away bed!) Our guide tried to reason with them, but they wouldn't budge - I wouldn't either. So our guide suggested we go ahead and go to the mall and he would call his agency. Within about 5 minutes he had a call back that all was taken care of and we wouldn't have to move rooms after all. I am grateful it was taken care of, because tomorrow is our day to get everything together for the trip home, and moving the girls to a new room would disrupt them even more. That was about our excitement for the day. One more day to get through before we can get on that plane!!!!!

Other thoughts:

You know how, when you have your first child, if the pacifier falls on the floor, you boil it before giving back to the child? With the second child, if it's dropped, you stick it under some warm water and give it back to them. By your third child, when it falls, you pick it up, stick it in your own mouth, and then give it back. Well, with our first adoption, we probably used three bottles (or more) of hand sanitizer and no telling how many diaper wipes. Before we got Elli, we wouldn't even walk on the hotel floor in our bare feet. After we got her, we were rolling all over the floor - forget house shoes!!! This time, however, we skipped all three of those 'stages' and went straight to the 6th stage - eating off the airport floor, skipping the hand sanitizer, using stir sticks for our tea that we don't have a clue where they have been (surely the hot tea will kill the germs - right?), eating unknown foods, and I won't even get into the subject of the condition of some of the bathrooms we have used! The things is, we've survived them all, and only a few stomach aches to show for all our lack of cleanliness. God has kept us healthy and safe, and we are so grateful for His answer to all of your prayers!

2011-05-11T12:46:00.000-04:00

For anyone that would like to welcome the girls home, they arrive May 14, 9:52 pm. I know it's late when they arrive, please feel welcome but no pressure or disappointment on our parts if you're not there! Thanks for all the prayers. Much love, Virgil, Cindy, Emily, Elli, Enya, Evelyn, & Wanda! Also, Zeb & Zak!

2011-05-11T06:43:00.000-04:00

2011-05-11T06:40:00.001-04:00

This morning we went to have the TB test checked and I'm so thankful to say that both girls were given the OK!!!!! Praise the Lord!!!! After wards we went to visit the site of the 2010 Asian games. It was amazing to see what was built in a 4 year time span. There were replicas of famous buildings that were made of flowers, the seventh tallest building in the world, and the Guangzhou Opera House. It was very hot (our guide thought perhaps around 100*) and the girls didn't enjoy the tour very much because of that. We cut the tour short since they were a bit miserable. Their favorite part of the tour was the water misters that you could walk through ;-). We came on back to the room and they've been content to just stay in the air conditioning. Tomorrow we go to have the girls take the oath for US citizenship, and then on to the mall. The mall is what Xiaoyun has been waiting for! We are inching closer to Saturday, and the time seems to be standing still for me. I can't wait to see the girls with their new family!!!! Thank you all for the prayers for the TB test!!!!!!

2011-05-10T06:48:00.004-04:00

Today started on a good note. We got to sleep in a bit and not rush breakfast, so that was nice(though the table got kicked part way over twice, signaling the end of breakfast!) After wards we went for a walk and took some photos of the girls. They really enjoyed that, and, from a mama's perspective, I thought the pictures turned out beautifully! We found a store we had been looking for - Jenny's Place- and were able to purchase an English/ Chinese Bible. We also bought the girl's Christmas ornaments there. Xiaoyun picked out a small jewelry box with a cross on the top - so glad to see that. We met some more families who are here adopting, and that is always so pleasant. Our guide came to the hotel to do a bit of paperwork, and once we pass the TB test tomorrow we'll only have the interview and oath to be complete. Our guide looked at the girl's arms and said Enya Li's TB site looked good, but he wasn't as sure about Xiaoyun's. We're just praying that tomorrow it looks like it should. Enya Li got into some of Xiaoyun's things this afternoon, and when I took them away from her, she threw quite the fit. It lasted for what seemed like 3 or 4 days, though I'm sure it wasn't ;-) . Xiaoyun talked with her after a while and got her to calm down. After she was fine again, Xiaoyun talked to her some more (though I couldn't understand what she was saying) and Enya Li came over and told me she was sorry!!!! Xiaoyun is such a huge help and so sweet to even tell Enya Li she should apologize. Just a few more days!!!!!!!! Keep the prayers coming!!!!

Some practical things to bring to China that you might not consider:

Bring clothes pins - many of the rooms have a clothes line so you can wash out any clothes you may need to.
Ditto for powdered laundry detergent - the kind that has no perfumes or dyes - two of my girls from China have sensitive skin.
The clothes pins are also a way to entertain your child (if they are 7 years old) -they find all kinds of creative ways to use them.

When you first get to a new city, go to Walmart or equivalent, and buy:
liquid soap (they enjoy washing their hands with that and it is much less messy on the sink), liquid dish washing detergent (for rinsing out the sippy cups and spoons)
the sippy cup (one with a strap you can hang on a stroller)
plenty of napkins or paper towels
ramen noodles
peanut butter (the jars you bring with you get confiscated going through security) and jelly (for when you need comfort food from home)
some picture books of food, animals, everyday items - to start practicing English words (this is even good for the older kids)
bottled water
creamer for your coffee or tea- some hotels don't have any
plenty of diaper wipes and individual tissue packets in case you get to a potty that doesn't have any
Mi YaYa DVD for your child to watch on your computer - trust me on this one - I know for a fact that 6 and 7 years old girls love this cartoon character (you may even get a chance to unpack a suitcase while they are watching!!!! )
-and of course the coveted stroller.

Also, bring from home: plastic fork, knives, spoons and paper plates/bowls (have had a hard time finding those here).
A thumb drive to use as a back up for your computer( when you download photos)
Bug spray - especially for Guangzhou this time of year
Locks for your suitcases - so when you're at the hotel you are able to lock up bags you don't want the kids in - medicine, etc.
Post it notes to write down what all the paperwork says (you may think you won't forget but after awhile the paperwork starts to run together in your brain) Also a novelty for the kids to play with.
Small scissors - you won't believe how often you need them.
MP3 player and camera for older child - have some American music already downloaded
Purse for older girls and backpack for younger (make sure backpack isn't too large - they will pack it full - I think Enya's weighs 10 lbs! )
Cargo pants and shorts - make sure pockets snap or button. I wish I had only brought this type of pants. The pockets are great for holding small pack of kleenex, small bills, small pack of diaper wipes, gum, etc., so your not digging in a backpack every time you need a little something.

The most important things are the prayers of many people and the grace and protection only God can provide!!!!

2011-05-09T10:15:00.004-04:00

Today started early because we had to meet our guide for medical exams. Breakfast ended with a bang - Enya Li kicked the table and spilled coffee and noodles. Fortunately only a little got on Xiaoyun, but that pretty much signaled the end of breakfast. The medical exams went fairly well, except for the fact that Xiaoyun had to have four shots and the TB test. Enya Li only had to get the TB test because we filled out paperwork saying we'd get her vaccinated within 30 days of arriving home (this only applies to children under 10 yrs. old). Xiaoyun was a trooper and I think I flinched more than she did. We go back Wednesday morning to have the TB test read. Please pray for no raised mark on the arms. Enya had a reaction to mosquito bites yesterday and today, but the medicine is working - thank you, Lord! After the medicals we went to a provincial museum and while we were there some older people came up and started talking to the guide (John). He told us they were saying how much they appreciated the fact that we were adopting the girls. One lady was particularly vocal and said it was a shame that the wealthy people in China aren't doing this themselves. They kept giving us thumbs up and the one lady actually saluted us! It was so kind of them and we got a photo, though it came out a bit blurry. Xiaoyun was a bit tired - I suppose from the shots,- but she eventually perked up and tried to teach me some words in Mandarin. She thought I was so funny trying to say them correctly (I'm blaming this on my Alabama accent). Even Enya got in on the act and would try to correct my words. Mandarin has 4 tones, so you not only have to say the word, but also say it with the correct tone). Overall it was a good day for everyone, once we got past the shots. I'm even getting better helping Enya use the squatty potty, though I'm glad that is not a skill I'll need at home. Love to all! Cindy

2011-05-08T14:01:00.001-04:00

2011-05-08T13:51:00.003-04:00

We went to the Guangzhou zoo today. The animals are mush closer to you than the zoos in the US. The girls enjoyed themselves at first, but the heat and humidity was more than they are used to, so by the end we were rushing through. The panda was their favorite (just like Elli). The landscaping is very lush, making it a great setting. Enya Li got some sort of bug bite on both hands, which caused swelling and streaking. I gave her some medicine and it seems a bit better, but we're keeping a close watch on her hands. Last time we were here, I brought a lot of medicine and didn't use any of it, but this time I've had to use quite a bit- between, me, Mom and Enya Li. I'm thankful that I have had it to use. Note to anyone who will be doing this trip for the first time - bring a variety of medicines that you don't think you could possibly need because you never know. It has been a pleasant Mother's Day. The girls have both been in a good mood, and the hotel accommodations are so nice it puts us all in a better mood. Having room to spread out makes such a difference. We bought some playing cards, and I taught Xiaoyun how to play go-fish. Enya Li is just having fun playing with the cards ;-) . Tomorrow morning is our medical exams for the girls. Please pray that their TB test comes back negative (we will know in two days). If the TB test comes back positive, they do x-rays, and if that is positive, they will not be allowed to leave the country for at least 8 (I think) weeks. Also, Xiaoyun may have to have shots tomorrow, so pray her records are all up to date she can avoid that. Continued thanks for all your thoughts and prayers! God is so good!!!! Much Love, Cindy

2011-05-08T13:49:00.001-04:00

Today is Mother's day - a most fitting holiday for me to be sharing with my new daughters and my mom, in China. While I am missing my other children horribly (and Virgil!), this is a worthy reason not to be together. This day represents so much to me. All my life I have desired to be a stay-at-home mother and I am so very grateful to have been given the opportunity to give birth to six kids - three biologically and three born in my heart. I've also been blessed with two wonderful daughter-in-laws and a precious granddaughter, and the opportunity to be a 'mom' to several beautiful girls. I am BLESSED indeed! Not only that, but I am fortunate to have been able to stay at home with all my kids ( thank you, sweetheart!!!!! ) God has indeed been good to me, and He's so richly blessed me. The love of a husband and children is a wonderful thing. I pray I never take it for granted. Also, the love of my mom and grandmother, as well as my mother- in-law (how I wish she could have lived to see her new grandchildren - she would have loved them so!) is a gift I am so grateful for. If you are a mother - enjoy your special day! I thank God for all those moms in the world, and those women, that though they are not mother's themselves, that have been like a mom to many. God's special blessings on you all! With love, Cindy

2011-05-07T16:31:00.002-04:00

2011-05-07T16:30:00.001-04:00

I just finally got all unpacked and I am too tired to write much. Thank you all for the prayers for the flight and for my illness. The medicine is helping tremendously. We arrived safely in Guangzhou. We were delayed an hour on the tarmac in Guiyang, but the flight was fairly short - 1 1/2 hours, so that was good. From the time we boarded the plane,until we landed, Enya Li went to the bathroom SIX times. So much fun ;-( . It was Xiaoyun's first flight and she really enjoyed it (except for the hour delay). Guangzhou is beautiful, hot and humid. It is such a lush, tropical city. We got to the hotel, and they had ordered us the wrong type of room (1 queen bed size only). They changed us to a room that is unbelievable!!! I've never seen such a nice room (everything was just remodeled). I'm fairly confident this is quite an upgrade from the room we were supposed to get and we are grateful!!! Even the girls were excited about it - I'm pretty sure I saw a tear in Mom's eye ;-) ! They even have a private balcony. We're off to the zoo tomorrow morning, so I'd better get some rest. Love to all!!!

2011-05-07T09:43:00.002-04:00

2011-05-07T09:39:00.002-04:00

Got to room and are heading out to get girls supper - haven't even unpacked but they are hungry. The room is INCREDIBLE!!!!!!!! They are remodeling the rooms we would normally be staying in. We were placed in newly remodeled, gorgeous, huge room!!!!!!!! Even have private balcony. More later, going to eat!

2011-05-06T14:57:00.006-04:00

Cindy and the girls are preparing to travel this evening. They had a wonderful time at the monkey zoo. However, better than the zoo was their driver. Cindy said that he had a voice better than anyone she'd heard before. He was about 62 years of age and smiled all the time. Cindy mentioned that by far he the best driver that they have had this trip. She went on to say that he would be an internet sensation if he lived here in the states. It was a very good day for all them. Later that night as they were starting to pack for the upcoming flight, Cindy said she started experiencing stomachs spasms somewhat like contractions. Before long, she had to lay on the bed to ease the discomfort. From what we can gather, it appears if she may have a bladder infection. The good part if there is, she has plenty of antibiotics to fight this off. Cindy says she has drank alot of diet sodas for the caffeine to fend off any migraines. Cindy has been successful in migraine department but looks as if this could be part of her issue with the bladder infection. Please pray for Cindy as she wakes later this day that all these symptoms have passed. In addition, pray that the girls travel well as this will be Evelyn's first and Enya's second trip.

2011-05-05T09:23:00.001-04:00

2011-05-05T07:07:00.001-04:00

Today we went o visit the orphanage in Guiyang. We were not allowed to take photos, except for being given special permission for these two little fellas. They are both on the list to be adopted. The one on the right (we'll call him Luke) is 9 years old and the one on the left (James) is 11. I'm not sure what their special need is besides problems walking. I wasn't given any information about either. But, watching them walk I believe they both have cerebral palsy. Luke fell down while walking over for me to take his picture, but both can walk. I didn't get to interact with James. However, I did get to spend a few minutes with Luke. We took candy for the kids and he loved it, and we spent a few minutes playing with blocks with each other. He did not want me to leave and it broke my heart to see these children, longing for a family. I asked the director if I could help spread the word aboiut any choldren and these were the two she gave me. She said if anyone was interested in either I could email her and she would give the information about them (I think it would go through perhaps our agency or Love Without Boundaries). There are about 420 children in the orphanage and in foster care here. Everyone was very kind and the facilities were clean and bright. Still, there were so many that need a family. I am appealing to you all to please consider giving a home to one (or two!) of these children. I won't lie - it is difficult sometimes (sometimes very difficult!!!, but oh, so worth it! (Even biological children are difficult at times ;-) !!) To feel these little arms around you and to hear the word Mama from a child who has never been able to say that before is beyond my ability to describe. Please pray for these children - and children around the world - who have no arms to tuck them in at night, to sing them a lullaby, to teach them to ride a bike, to send of to their prom, or to walk them down the isle. Your child may be waiting for you!!!!!!!!

Annie, if you are reading this, if you can please put these little guys on your blog!!!!!!!

Much love, Cindy

2011-05-04T22:20:00.001-04:00

2011-05-04T11:57:00.001-04:00

First let me say - Happy Gotcha Day, Elli Chun Willoughby!!!!! One year ago today we met our beautiful 7 year old daughter. So much has happened in one short year. Who would have thought I'd be sitting in China typing up news of two more daughters on the one year anniversary of Elli's 'birth'? Elli has been such a blessing and I can't wait to have all the girls united!
Is has been a fairly quiet day. Enya had us up at 5:50 this morning. At breakfast we discovered just how much Enya Li likes tomatoes - she ate two bowls of grape tomatoes (along with her noodles and watermelon). We stayed in the room, which is always easier with our little dynamo. Our plans to visit the orphanage were delayed until tomorrow, because the guide had paperwork to do concerning the adoption. We had some fun with the beach ball and also looked at pictures of the extended family. We also found out Enya Li is a little ham. She will pose and make a face and then want her picture made. We braided Xiaoyun's hair today - she enjoys having it brushed.
In my effort to be a good mom ;-) I have been trying some of the food the girls got at the grocery yesterday. Sadly, I can't read the writing on the package and more than one thing has been less than desirable to me (I do not like tomato flavored potato chips). Xiaoyun wanted to share her ramen noodle with me, so I leaned down to her bowl and opened wide to try it. Fortunately, I sniffed before it reached my mouth. Unfortunately, I got a big whiff and started gagging and dry heaving. It was some type of seafood(which I really dislike!) The girls thought that was a hoot, and we all ended up having a good laugh (actually, even typing this is making my stomach roll!). I'm thankful for peanut butter and jelly sandwiches - though I may never eat another one after we get home!

The girls are asleep, and I am heading that way. Please know how much I appreciate ALL the prayers. I'm sorry I can't see the blog, or the comments left (it is blocked here), but I look forward to reading them when I get home. Also, I'm sorry for the many emails I haven't sent to friends and family. By the time I get the post done, I am bone weary. Every once in a while, during the day, Enya Li is occupied and I can type a few thoughts I want to remember, but that is about all I can manage. All my love and thanks!!!!!

2011-05-04T09:41:00.001-04:00

I'd like to tell you a little about my girls:

Enya Li:
A little whirlwind
When she's awake - she's AWAKE - who said she takes a nap and goes to bed at 8:00?
Very affectionate
Shares everything (even some things you may not want in your mouth)
Quick to laugh and her smile lights up her face
Is strong willed (Dr.Dobson - could you write a special book just for me?!)
Likes the color red and every other bright color
Likes Mi YaYa (cartoon character)
Loves books, baby dolls, and clothes pins
Does not like to be told no (who does?)
LOVES to sing and has a beautiful voice
Quick to pick up on things - she's sees it one time and knows how to do it (this can be good or bad)
Likes taking a bath - doesn't even mind washing her hair
Panics if the water in the bathtub is more than lukewarm
Likes to brush her teeth -
Will eat a bowl full of grape tomatoes
Likes watermelon
LOVES,LOVES noodles - plain or lightly flavored - not spicy
Poses for pictures and loves to look at pics of herself after they're made
Doesn't like most vegetables
Wants to do everything her big sister is doing
Can mimic most words she hears you say
Can whistle

Xiaoyun:
Thoughtful
Loves blingy jewelry
Loves art
Picked out two books for me to buy her- one on ancient Chinese history/ the other on Greek mythology
Likes pink, purple, and blue
Loves to have her fingernails polished
Doesn't like most fruits (don't think she likes a lot of vegies either)
Is my spicy girl - loves hot foods
Has the most delicate hands
Loves to have me dry her hair
Is protective of me and Mom - will fuss at Enya Li if she gets too rowdy with us
Is free with her hugs and kisses
Has a beautiful smile
Likes music
Enjoys listening to the oldies on Mom's MP3
Is a junk food junkie
Likes the Chinese version of soap operas (at least, that is what I think they are)
Is excited to have an older sister to go shopping with
Is very intelligent
Wants a strawberry cake for her birthday
Loves animals
Knows the alphabet, and about a hundred English words
Likes to read
Excited to have a big family

2011-05-04T09:27:00.002-04:00

I've been able to Skype with Cindy and the girls for an hour or better in the mornings and evenings. To say that things have improved greatly is an understatement! Body clocks are adjusting/ed, the girls are getting along and Wanda is feeling better. This has been such a marvelous journey and we're so excited to all be together soon. Thanks for those who've been praying for our family. God has really been at work in our lives these past 26 months. I'm so thankful we did NOT play it safe by staying warm inside by the hearth. That we were willing and sensitive to the Lord's movemnet on this path and how God has built a raging fire in our hearths for these children. We are truly blessed! Today marks the one year annivarsary of our Gotcha day with Elli. I would like to share what Cindy has written to her on this very special day:

Happy Gotcha day! Mama is sorry I can't be with you on this special day, but we will have many moreGotcha Days to celebrate together. You are such a blessing to me and I thank God for giving me such a special daughter. The moment I first saw you was such a wonderful moment and one I will always treasure. I had waited so long to see your sweet face and many prayers were prayed for you over those months before we met. I am so thankful God sent you into our lives, and allowed me to be your mama. I love you so very much. I am sending hugs and kisses to you and can't wait to see you again soon!!! I love you honey bunny!!!! Love, Mama

The little things I'm thankful For:

Pepsi Max (couldn't get any Pepsi last tim e we were here)
Sippy cups - finally bought one today!!!!!
Cool rooms
Western style buffet breakfasts
Showers
Cold water
Fried potatoes on breakfast menu
Hotel room doors that have an alarm when you open door
Wonderful guides
Finding peanut butter at grocery store
BBC news
Good bakery
Fridge in room
STROLLER
Soft linens
Water bottles in abundance
Good hotel staff
Hearing ANYONE speak English (even if the only word they can say is hello!)
Someone calling you your room phone to check on you
Not having to drive in this traffic
Congee - either plain or pumpkin - mixed with steamed pumpkin and sugar (think soupy rice pudding) - the girls were both shocked when I added sugar ;-)
A cup of tea - while it is still at least lukewarm (means I got to sit down for a few minutes)
Splenda I brought from home
Chapstick
Singing along with John Denver on the computer
Coffee creamer in our room
Small pair of scissors bought at corner drug store
Bandaids

2011-05-03T17:09:00.001-04:00

2011-05-03T14:39:00.000-04:00

Just wanted you to know that laughter is the best medicine. Xiaoyun loved you being silly with them, and after we got off Skype she ate something and said she was feeling better. She lay down on the bed and put her arms out for me, and I held her until she fell asleep. What a wonderful thing. Orphanage visit was postponed due to paperwork Vickie has to pick up in the morning. We'll go the next day. Not sure what we are going to do tomorrow, but Vickie will call us in the morning and we'll go out in the afternoon. I was trying to get Enya asleep and she was fighting it. She started singing really fast and then all of the sudden she was asleep - like turning off a light switch - LOL.

2011-05-03T10:20:00.001-04:00

Xiaoyun isn't feeling well. She said it is her stomach. She has eaten a lot of junk food, and I'm hoping that is what is wrong. Gave her some Pepto a few minutes ago and I'm praying that will do the trick. I also suspect she is missing her foster family. She's done so well, but I'm sure it is very difficult. We went to the grocery store today and that was taxing ;-) . Enya wants to grab EVERYTHING so you have to been on your guard at all times. We filled the buggy up and THEN I thought about how I'd need to carry all back to the room ;-) . If I don't have the most muscles of my entire life by the time we get back, I will be very disappointed (not that I ever had that many! ) We continue to be a spectacle wherever we go. Our guide said that this province is very isolated (because of all the mountains) and not many American's come here. I'm sure we are quite the sight - two American women and two Chinese little girls.
Enya can eat her weight in yogurts and noodles, so we'll be taking donations of these on a continual basis.
Another day down and another day closer to being all together as a family once again - I can hardly WAIT!!!!
Please pray for Xiaoyun's stomach and Mom's ribs (she does feel a bit better today)

2011-05-03T10:18:00.000-04:00

Thing that I’m thankful for:

1) When your 7 year old daughter, that you just met, calls you Mama and also knows everyone's name in the photo album you sent her.
2) The first time you hear the laughter and see the smile on her face.
3) The love displayed for your daughters by those who have cared for them all their lives.
4) The sacrificial love of a foster mom, who realizes that the only way that the daughter she has cared for 9 years to have medical care is to encourage her to be adopted.
5) Being able to cry with the foster mom and reassuring her that our new daughter will be loved and cared for by many.
6) Kind people in the airport who helped us with our bags.
7) The angel God sent to hold Enya and talk to her during her meltdown in the Beijing airport.
8) The kisses of a little girl who has been in an orphanage her entire life and the miracle that she is so affectionate.
9) Singing the only song I know in Mandarin, and that same little girl singing along with me - the song says that a child who has a mother is treasured.
10) My new teenager slipping a slender silver ring on my finger she had brought for me.
11) That same daughter sitting in my lap and putting her arms around me.
12) Xiaoyun asking me to dry and brush her hair.
13) Xiaoyun thanking me for adopting her - thank you Lord!
14) Being able to Skype with Baba (Virgil) and the girl's seeing and talking to him and to their sisters.
15) Xiaoyun saying she can't wait to get home.
16) Waking up in the morning, and Xiaoyun reaching over to hold my hand.
17) Laying down with Enya Li, and she rising up to give me a kiss.
18) Having a daughter who loves to read (Xiaoyun)
19) Having a daughter who loves to sing (Enya Li)
20) A daughter who gives you the first bite of her food - even if she only has one bite. (Enya Li)
21) A daughter who is concerned the hair dryer is getting too hot in your hand, and wraps a towel around the handle so it won't burn you. (Xiaoyun)
22) A daughter who laughs out loud, when you paint her fingernails for the first time. (Both girls)
23) Being able to take the girl's to an amusement park and watching the joy on their faces as they ridden the rides.
24) Seeing the expression on Enya Li's face the first time she has ice cream.
25) Having your daughter - right before she goes to bed- run over to you, throw her arms around you, and give you a kiss on both cheeks. (Xiaoyun)
26) Having a mom who is willing to make a physically difficult journey to share in the 'birth' of her new granddaughter's.

You Will Survive

1) If your child force feeds you something that fell on the floor in the middle of the airport in Harbin, China- you will survive (at least for a while).
2)If your child feeds you dried seaweed, and you REALLY dislike seaweed, you will survive.
3) If you child needs to go to the potty 6 times on a 2 hour flight and the bathrooms are smaller even than American airplanes- you will survive.
4) If you have to kneel down on that same bathroom floor, after many people have already used said potty and missed the mark- you will survive.
5) If, while you are still kneeling down pulling up your child's undies, she decides to flush that airplane toilet- you will survive (though may not want to).
6) If you become a human pack mule, carrying lots of groceries, bottled water, and sodas in a backpack and with both arms- you will survive.
7) f your new daughter head butts you (by accident - I think ), and you think you've lost half your tongue- you will survive.
8) If you take your child to an outdoor squatty potty and she insists on removing her pants and undies - which you drop on the floor - not once, but twice, and then she decides she doesn't need to go- you will survive.
9) If you take an underground tunnel to get to the opposite side of the street and you end up somehow managing to come back up where you just went down (instead of on the other side of the street- you will survive (but you sure are going to look stupid!)
10) If the new cup you just bought your daughter, which you had just washed and sterilized and put fresh water in, she decides to dump out on the bathroom floor and then refill with undrinkable water- you will survive.
11) If you try a bite of food your daughter was eating, and at almost the same time the guide is saying 'It is made of pig's blood'- you will survive. (It came out of my mouth quickly and then we realized she was talking about a different food! We all had a good laugh!!!!!
12) If the air conditioning in the hotel is broken and there are no windows you can open, and you sit surrounded by a pool of sweat- you will survive and maybe even lose a couple of pounds of water weight!

2011-05-02T10:40:00.000-04:00

It has been a wonderful day! The best we have had so far. We went to a city built 600 years ago, that Xiaoyun had said she wanted to go to. The drive took about an hour and the countryside was beautiful. This is a mountainous province, with only about 3% of flatland. We passed many rice paddy's, and even some water buffalo! the city was fascinating and also packed with people, since this is a holiday for many. There are a lot small vendors set up selling everything from toys to tofu made with pigs blood (actually I had just put a bit of something Enya has asked for in my mouth when the guide told us that, and I thought she was talking about what I had just stuffed in my mouth - let's just say it was back out of my mouth immediately. We all got tickled about that and had a good laugh together.) Enya Li was fascinated BY EVERYTHING!!! She was so excited about the little things I bought her. Xiaoyun loved the jewelry and we bought matching bracelets for all four of my girls and for me and Mom. Speaking of Mom - she did go today and we think the anti-inflammatory is helping. Thanks for the prayers and keep them coming!
We painted toenails today, and it made Xiaoyun so happy! Enya Li wanted in on the action and actually sat still long enough for her fingernails to dry. They were both so impressed with their nail!
I lay down on the bed with Enya Li to get her to sleep, and while we are laying there, she raised up and kissed me. Then, a little while later, Xiaoyun comes over to me,throws her arms around me and gives me a kiss on both cheeks. What a miracle and answer to prayer to have such loving girls!
All are asleep now, and I better get there myself - my little tornado will be awake early ;-)

2011-05-01T14:03:00.002-04:00